Hi there! So first off questions for you; how often do you test? What is your most recent A1c? Are you being seen by an endo or a general family doc? Have you had any severe lows or KDE?
I'd say that as interesting as meee's advice is, I would NOT drink wine until I had a handle on why you are feeling so anxious about all this first. Drinking could just compound any other problems you are having, and you can't respond to a low if you are half tanked. So....sorry meee but I think that isn't very good advice.
Back to you LiL MaMa; do you feel like this all the time- or when you are feeling nervous and on edge to you do a bg test?
I would either do more tests and keep a log; or if you are already doing 5+ a day, then just start keeping a log.
Time of day for every entry; bg result; type and amount of food eaten (carb count); type and amount of insulin taken; type and amount of exersize; any illness/ period/ PMS/ outside stress factors (job/ family/ significant other).
Take a bg when you wake up in am, if there is more than 30-45 minutes before you eat breakfast, then do another before eating. Do another 2 hours after you've eaten. Then another before lunch; another 2 hours after lunch. Before dinner; 2 hours after dinner. Before bed, and for giggles, set an alarm for 3-4 hours after you go to bed- wake up with alarm, do another blood test.
After a week of this you'll either be so sick of it, that you'll stop and stop freaking yourself out, OR you'll see patterns and report in to your doc and maybe adjust your dosing so that you aren't at one extreme or another (high or low) and then you can see what things have what result on your bg levels.
Point is, don't get all freaky without having cause to be freaky. If any highs or lows are completely unexplained and you are going into KDE or having severe lows (like black outs and paramedics being called) then you really need to adjust your dosing or your food intake and check in with your endo. You can't fix anything without the data.
Are you on a pump? Can you get a CGM?
It does suck, and yeah, I have it going on in the back of my head most of the time also; but if you already did a blood test, and you know what your carb intake was, and you took the right amount of insulin....well then barring any weird outside forces, you ought to be ok!
Do you carry your tester around with you? Do you carry insulin and glucose tabs of some sort? All you can do is be prepared, and gather more info.
And seriously- do try to relax. Or go stay with someone for a week; have someone stay with you for a week. Let someone help you.
And heck, ask your endo for a referral to a mental health person that deals with chronic disease patients.
All in all, good luck. Remember, sometimes the wind shifts just right and we all go crashing down for no good reason...but that is rare if you are paying attention to what is going on and trying to keep on top of it.