Hey Roop! Looking at your profile I see that I was diagnosed just a few weeks before you were in 1993! I don't know any other "real life" diabetics and have just coasted along doing my own thing for the past 19 years with A1Cs around 8-9. I couldn't believe it when I signed up here and saw that there are people (even recently diagnosed) who manage to get and maintain theirs under 6. My lowest ever was 7.1!
I've now read a lot and although the number of conflicting approaches can be confusing at first, I think I'm going to borrow aspects of each which make sense to me. I read the first chapter of Bernstein nodding along but by the time I got to the part where he suggests dipping a urine stick in restaurant broth to see if it has carbs in it i was PMSL!!! ;-D Still worth a read though. I'd also really recommend "Pumping Insulin" by John Walsh, "Think like a pancreas" by Gary Scheiner and "Born again diabetic" by William-Lee Dubois. Don't let the bad "dad" jokes put you off (I think this is something you'll find in all american non-fiction - I've also noticed it in photography books!).
I've started using the dexcom and omnipod, moved to a less stressful job and bought an ipad to(ahem) make it easier to keep detailed records so now I have all the tools I really have no excuse not to get my sugars sorted out - it's just a matter of self-motivation. My husband and I want to start trying for a baby as soon as possible so my plan is to start off by eating the same thing most days and looking at the records every night. At the moment I eat and drink pretty much whatever/whenever I feel like it (this morning breakfast was a cinnamon and raisin bagel with nutella!) so it'll be tough but I think that once I get used to it I won't miss the junk. I'm thinking greek yoghurt, banana, blueberries and walnuts for breakfast, salad with tinned tuna, boiled egg, spinach, peppers, tomatoes and pumpkin seeds followed by fruit for lunch, and lean steak/chicken/fish with vegetables, maybe a few new potatoes and a glass of wine for dinner, with brazil nuts for snacking. The other thing which I've found makes a massive difference is to bolus a good 20-30 mins before eating ("Think like a pancreas" has a useful section on this) - when I started on novorapid the diabetic nurse told me that it was an amazingly fast new insulin which could be injected just before or even after eating. And "after eating" can so easily mean 30 mins after starting - now that i've seen my post-meal sugars on dexcom i can only imagine what i've done to my body over the years!
Good luck - and feel free to contact me if you ever want to rant/a second opinion from someone in the same boat!