Like others have said, I think you’re seeing this through a lens of your own anxiety. And that is perfectly normal, and quite understandable. But it doesn’t necessarily lead to an accurate view of what is going on with your daughter. 90-110 mg/dL is pretty darn normal. I’m a 180lb man. Your daughter at 2 is probably 30lbs or less. She doesn’t need to eat 150g of carbs in a meal to be eating a high carb diet. Intake, like almost everything else, is proportional to body weight. Those postprandial numbers (120s-130s) are entirely, completely normal for a non-diabetic. Although there is some debate, many non-diabetics probably experience occasional BGs higher than 140 after a carby meal.
So, you asked us what we thought about the numbers, and that’s what I think: your daughter likely has a normal response for a 2 year old on a fairly “normal” diet. Hopefully that remains the case. I also worry about my son, being a T1 diabetic from a family full of T1 diabetics. But there isn’t much I can do about it unless he develops diabetes. He hasn’t so far, and I’m grateful for that!
But please seek help. You seem to be panicking over your daughter’s blood sugars, and not only is that not good for you, it’s also not good for your daughter. Our children pick up on our moods, our worries, and our fears, and if you have this much fear about your daughter’s health when most indications are she is “fine,” it may contribute to anxiety in her as well. Family and medical counseling (for those with chronic diseases) might benefit you and your family quite a bit.
And, all that being said, I get it, I really do. I worry about my son almost every day: think it’s a normal part of being a parent. I worry about myself as well. It’s normal to worry, but the kind of anxiety you’re describing needs help.