You may want to take classes with your boyfriend. A lot of hospitals have hospital-based programs that last from one class to 6-8 weeks one night a week. Doctors' office may even offer educational materials/classes themselves. Buy a couple copies of some very basic books and read them together (at the same time) and discuss any questions and comments. What you need to do is to be together. That will make a connection right there.
There is no magic formula to get your butt going to do what you need to do. Some people are motivated by hearing of success stories. (But don't get discouraged if their way doesn't work like it did for them.) Some people need to have the bejeebers scared out of them. Hearing how NOT doing what is required will affect them with complications. For this one, you may want to take a look at my story on my page and read the blogs entitled "Saga of 2009, parts I-IV). If you're not scared silly by then, you're a woman that can watch scarey, creepy shows all night alone in a thunder storm!!
Whatever you do, don't ignore your readings. I have been running high lately and wasn't wanting to see the endo's Nurse Practitioner. But we made it through and I found out that I could be running high because I don't change my infusion site in three days. Then the insulin gets too warm and tends to be less effective. Now that's what I call encouraging. Also, one of my worse habits is to put the pump on "Suspend" and forget to reactivate it for hours, sometimes all day!!! Talk about dumb. I should know better!!
I can't give you advice about losing weight because that's my biggest problem right now. Just stay active and cut down on food intake. I can't stay really physically active because of my disabilities. The most I can do are some really pansy exercises in a recliner.
Good luck and keep in touch to let me/us know how you are doing.
Lois La Rose