So my daughter Sarah is 10 and she's had Type 1 since she was 5 years old, 6 weeks shy of her 6th birthday.
She's an amazing kid and on most days is a trooper with her diabetes but our appointment at the beginning of January with our endo was heart-breaking. Sarah's A1C was 9.4! Part of that was due to a vial of bad insulin, part of that was Christmas and New Years, but the main part was that Sarah wouldn't bolus for anything she ate. She was running high every day and I couldn't get her to care.
We have an amazing social worker as part of our team and at that appointment he told us to stop focusing on the numbers and start to focus on developing good habits. So we went home and tried all sorts of various things, but I was still frustrated that Sarah wasn't taking any responsibility at all, and it's surprising because she's a very mature and responsible kid.
So I thought I would ask you guys and started writing a post asking for ideas of what to do when it hit me... Sarah had no motivation to take responsibility because I had it all! In my efforts to protect her, help her, and shield her, as well as my motivation as a people-pleaser to have good numbers, I had taken over all the responsibility for her diabetes to the point where she had no reason to want to do anything!
I deleted the post, more than chagrined with myself. So I sat down and had a talk with Sarah, I just said that I had been doing everything and I wasn't doing a good job, and she was more than capable and more than likely could do a better job than I could, and it was encouraging how well she responded. She took the torch and started running with it and I'm so happy to say she started bolusing. She's also learned how to upload her meters to diasend and loves to check her numbers, and since that day I am continually surprised when we check her blood and her numbers are in range, it's crazy.
And then this week at our endo appointment we got the proof that this is working... in three months Sarah's A1C had dropped almost a whole point to 8.5!!! It was all her. And even though we still have some work to do, and need to drop her A1C more, I'm confident that with her in the drivers seat we will succeed. And boy, was it ever nice to have a happy appointment, I didn't even cry!
And I love that I can come here and share this with all of you, people who actually understand.