My mother and I are like oil and water, always have been. But at 47 years old I have learned to manage our relationship in a civil manner.
We love each other, there is no doubt, we just don't get along and based on results never will.
Almost 2 years ago, my mother's best friend made the situation worse for us. She betrayed my mother by telling me things that my mother had said about me in confidence and my reaction which of course was anger and I said some things I truly felt but should not have said out loud, let along to this particular person, who couldn't wait to relay it all. This caused an even bigger rift between my parents and I, especially my mother, and it will never be the same.
Thanks giving came and gone and I did not go to my parents for it... as this person was going to be there. Every time I think of her, my blood boils and I get angry all over again. Every time I see her face I want to wrap my hands around her throat and shake her until she is blue.
Today my father asked if I was going to come for xmas, and that this person was going to be there. I don't want to go, I will but I am starting to get anxiety over it. I told him I want NOTHING to do with this woman, and that she had better keep away from me while I am there. I will be as civil as best I can but I wont make any promises as I have LOTS I would like to say to her. ( none of it will be pleasant)
I am a very kind person, and I get along with most everyone, this is the exception. MY blood sugars are rising as I am typing this...I want to forgive and forget but I just don't have it for this person and likely never will. Maybe someone out there has some advice as to how I may get to forgiveness with this person before my health takes another beating.
Her own family wants nothing to do with her so she is invading my space....I have never felt this much contempt for someone as I do her.