I have been quiet during the discussion, but I feel I need to speak my mind. I won't get into a debate about any of the topics being discussed in the several threads on the issues that have ignited many members, but I want to say my feelings about tudiabetes. I am neither a "newbie" to this site or diabetes, nor a true veteran.
I was diagnosed at 50, and that diagnosis came as both a complete surprise and a devastating shock. Having been active in a variety of online communities over the years, I looked to the internet for information and support. I had little experience with diabetes - limited to my mother's "take a pill and forget it" approach - so I knew I needed a lot of help. Also, my "symptoms" and responses to medications did not seem to follow any expected pattern (and even confused my physician).
This was not the first diabetes online community that I visited, nor is it the only one I frequent now. I was very active on another site at first and received quite a lot of help there, including hand-holding while I took my first insulin shot. Since I was a quite physically active person, I did, however, have certain personal goals in terms of exercise, diet and nutrition. I was active on that first site, but aside from the few friends I made there, I regularly felt attacked by others who had different diet or nutrition ideas, or who downplayed my particular issues and concerns. I left that site and visited three others before coming here. I didn't dare post to the forums on any of the other sites, for fear of awakening the "diet police." Still, on the second site, I was reprimanded for talking about eating a doughnut because (a) I wanted it and (b) I was low and it was there! I made friends there, but did not feel truly welcome.
Then I came here. From day 1, I was welcomed with open (electronic) arms. Tolerance - of varying diet/nutrition/exercise choices - was the rule, not the exception. I was embraced by folks who wanted to help me better manage my diabetes within the choices that felt comfortable to me. I learned carb counting, basal testing, and a long list of useful tools in the PWD arsenal. Most of all, I felt that I had a place where I could count on getting support - even if just to trade complaints - with no threat of being demeaned for my choices or concerns. Took me a while, but I built up the confidence to post on the forum share the information I'd gained, as well as continue to seek new options and new knowledge. I learn something new here every day.
I've been an admin on a large site. And yes, I've been a part of making some of those difficult decisions that the staff here has to make on a regular basis. That was not as important a site in the scheme of things as this is, but even in that context, those decisions are never easy and there's always a concern that the wrong decision was made. I am certain it is no different here. I won't question or argue with those decisions, because I am certain they are questioning themselves on a daily basis.
Thank you, DHF and the tudiabetes staff for giving all of us a safe place to express out fears, concerns, problems - and to truly feel that we are not alone.