It's a matter of finding a doc or team that will work with you, understands what you want to do, I think. This summer has been a lesson in that for me. Losing my CNP/CDE meant I had to think about what I was going to want in someone else, not just take anyone. I sat down and wrote the pros and cons of the relationship I had lost, what was good about it, what made it work, and what I wanted in someone to replace that.....then when I got ready to go and find that person, I took my needs, wants and desires with me on a sheet of paper. I asked if they were willing to do these things, what ones they had a problem with, what ones they would support and how much leeway I had in t he process. Amazingly, there was only one doc that said HE couldn't agree with most of it, HE was the doc, I was the patient. Well, needless to say, he didn't get the job. I will give on some things, I will think about others and then decide, and unless it's an emergency, NOTHING has to be decided in a 20 minutes appt. And then of course, there are those things that I am 100% on board for in the first place. But I had to be in charge. I had to be the one who said "yes" let's do it, or I'll be able to follow that thought. I still own this old carcus, and until which time that I sell it for a new one, I'll be making those decisions.