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Permalink Reply by debb on July 11, 2008 at 5:19am

your right, it shouldn't matter. you make a commitment for life because you love each other.
that said...my husband was very upset when he found out i had it. we had been married for 30 years when i was dx'd. he stayed for two more years. type 2, by the way. i couldn't check my sugar in front of him or take my medicine (oral) in front of him. two years later he left. his final reason (after going through a ton of them that no one believed) was that i let him down. i didn't take care of myself so i got sick. i must not care enough about myself, or him, to make sure this wouldn't happen.
as a note to myself....i should have seen this coming. about 10 years before, his mother got breast cancer and had to have a single mastectomy to her left breast. at that time my husband told me if that ever happened to me i had better expect a divorce, because i would no longer be whole. i thought he was just joking at the time. him, being his normal insensitive self. now i wonder. for myself, i am going to be very careful who i get involved with, if i ever do. i don't think i could take that kind of rejection again.
that mother was insensitive, and teaching her child the wrong thing. you were right to be angry. for yourself and for that child. as someone with diabetes we have enough problems to deal with, we don't need our parents screwing us up any worse.

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Permalink Reply by BlondeSwtP on July 16, 2008 at 6:38pm

Oh my, this post has definitely stirred up good opinions. I am not sure what I would have said if I was in the waiting room. Probably, I would have looked in dismay and realized afterwards I gave the look since I would have been in amazement by the comment.

Love does conquer all :)

Then again I must also agree with the statement that it takes a diabetic to understand a diabetic.

I am lucky that my husband tries to understand and he is supportive, but there have been times when I 've gone too low from exercising or too high because of bad choices at family outings (oops of course!) and he becomes frustrated because my sugar should always stay normal. Typically it does since I have the pump and my A1C is 5.6 ... he sees me managing everything, but he doesn't quite get it all either & then worries more.

As already noted, we all have different challenges in our lives and need to try to surround ourselves with positive friends/family. That meaning anyone with a heart who could be diabetic, have cancer, is depressed, yada, yada :)

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Permalink Reply by S. Gaudio on September 4, 2009 at 10:20pm

I agree as it always seems easier to someone who has not walked a mile in the person in a diabetics shoes.
I have lived with Type 1 for about 30 years and I am now 40. The disease I compare to the most chronic and not plainly visible which would be alcoholism.

The strains of diabetes may not seem apparent at the surface but rear their head in time. I only speak for myself so please take no offense, but until I went to The Joslin Center and on this online community no one has a clue. The battles of this disease all go hand and hand with your control from depression, weight and trying to not stand out especially if you are the shy quiet type.

The only issue I would ever see as a problem is if being young and the social effects not really being educated about diabetes. Here is a story that the Psychiatrist told at a Hypoglycemic Awareness seminar. He told of a young couple that met during their 4 day stay at the Do-It program. They eventually got married and here is the part of the story that is the bummer. While enjoying their time on their honeymoon they had a few drinks and both slipped into insulin shock and died.

This is the part that I always question. Does it matter that both partners are diabetic? The answer is "no" but do they understand and take the precautions in being diabetics. Had this couple paid attention to the dangers of alcohol and diabetes by notifying the ships doctor or staff, carrying glucagon or not drinking as much.

I say the more you know the better, but more sympathy and understanding from the another insulin challenged partner is a comfort, but you both should be proactive in your understanding of each other and the disease.

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