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Permalink Reply by David (dns) on May 1, 2012 at 10:32am

Ouch! That's a tough one. Sooner or later he's going to have to know about your 30 years. You might do a little research, too -- just possibly that bitter melon fad applies only to T2s. If that turns out to be the case, you have a valid answer (plus the opportunity to educate him about the difference between T1 and T2; he sounds like a typical lay person with limited understanding).

My standard answer to people who do that is to ask them where they attended medical school. But you can't say that to a boss, no matter how well meaning they might be -- certainly not one who's only known you for 2 months.

If he persists in trying to impress you with his expertise, you might try (very very gently) pinning him down with questions like, what's a typical bitter melon serving size, what is its glycemic index, what would one serving do to your blood sugar, etc. The questions would be intended not to shut him up, but to plant seeds that would hopefully cause him to go away and do a little checking on his own. He needs to understand how much more complex the picture is than he thinks, BUT it's crucial that he discover it for himself. Being told by someone just won't make it real.

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Permalink Reply by David (dns) on May 1, 2012 at 4:27pm

Tim,

I'm new here, so I didn't realize at first that there was more than one screen's worth of comments to read through. :) Now that I've read the ENTIRE thread, a couple of other things I noticed that deserve comment:
(1) Being a contractor does NOT get either him or the company (especially the company) off the hook. If they engage someone to supervise you on their behalf, they are liable for the way he handles their employees. Fully liable. In most states, anyway. If it ever (heaven forbid) gets ugly enough that this becomes a real issue, it's the company that you want to apply leverage to. They have a lot more to lose.
(2) If it gets so bad that you really need to document your interactions with him, consider getting a digital recorder. There are a zillion of them on the market, they work quite well, and they are smaller than a cell phone and pretty inconspicuous. Turn it on and put it in your pocket so it can record any conversation you have with him. Just a couple of important caveats, though -- get one that can easily upload to a computer for archiving, and -- very important! -- there are just a few states where this is not legal to do. Check first.

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Permalink Reply by Denise Bevard on May 1, 2012 at 6:02pm

I hope your situation resolves for the best sooner rather than later. I have been "chewing" on the following rant for days now--and it must get out...you are fairly warned...

Being a vendor does not exempt one from proper legal compliance. That being said, I UNFORTUNATELY know many able people denied jobs or let go of jobs do to the D. It is unethical and illegal, but it seems IMHO, not so many people really care. Keeping their own jobs is more important than ethics, and sometimes legality. Very sad state of affairs..and this in NOT a political thing--it is a people thing. People from all stirpes are willing to do unethical/illegal things because they think that it will protect them and theirs...they for get the old addage of seeing them come for or go after "others" and that no one was left to help them...

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Permalink Reply by LAB on May 6, 2012 at 3:47pm

You are covered under the ADA and your boss can be in big trouble! Frankly, it's none of his business! Next time...ask him if the bitter melon helps with his ED and then tell him your going to listen to your Dr. Ask HR touring him up to date on ADA.

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