DAD IS DYING
Another slap in the face from fate! I got a call from my sister who lives in New Jersey and she toild me that she was in Wisconsin for the last two weeks. She had been admitted to Waukesha Memorial in WI. Her Potassium was way too low and her calcium was way too high (or vice versa!). I knew she was here for a none-to-pleasant reason and asked her for the reason she was calling.
My Dad is back in the hospital and they were looking for a hospice room. MY DAD IS DYING and they don't expect him to last more than a week or two. His heart isn't working right, his adult leukemia is back and he has stage 3 renal failure. I can't say that it's unexpected but, when the time comes, it's still hard to cope with it.
The hospital will not let me out to visit him for a few hours. They say I have too many health problems to let me go. I would have to check out AMA and then Medicare wouldn't pay for my stay!! Besides, I'm supposed to have surgery tomorrow. But I don't know if I will because my blood is "too thin." It takes too long to clot.
Life is really taking a dump on me. My head is spinning with all the cra* piled on top of it! I don't know how to cope with all this.
Forlorn Lois
My Dad is back in the hospital and they were looking for a hospice room. MY DAD IS DYING and they don't expect him to last more than a week or two. His heart isn't working right, his adult leukemia is back and he has stage 3 renal failure. I can't say that it's unexpected but, when the time comes, it's still hard to cope with it.
The hospital will not let me out to visit him for a few hours. They say I have too many health problems to let me go. I would have to check out AMA and then Medicare wouldn't pay for my stay!! Besides, I'm supposed to have surgery tomorrow. But I don't know if I will because my blood is "too thin." It takes too long to clot.
Life is really taking a dump on me. My head is spinning with all the cra* piled on top of it! I don't know how to cope with all this.
Forlorn Lois
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Permalink Reply by Teena on -
Although it’s difficult today to see beyond the sorrow,
May looking back in memory help comfort you tomorrow....
So sorry Lois. All I can offer you are my prayers. The sun always shine tomorrow...
Please find the strength within you.
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Permalink Reply by Mark on -
Lois, I know this is difficult for you, and who would not falter after what you have been through, but you have got to set your sights on the positive aspects of your life. Not many right now, but know that someday all this will be over, and you can write to your friends and tell them what a wonderful day you are having. It starts small, in little increments. But eventually you will be filled with wonderful thoughts that diminish all that has, and will happen. When you are awake this afternoon think of one good thing that has happened, like wakeing up. Some people don't do that. Is there a good looking make nurse you can pinch on the rear today? You might want to choose a doctor since they have more money! How about all the people who visit tudiabetes? You don't want to let them down. How about this? Will you marry me? We could try it for a day or two and see how it goes!
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Permalink Reply by Mike S. on
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I am so sorry to hear about your father Lois. What an awful thing to have to be dealing with ON TOP of everything else. Be strong Lois. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Permalink Reply by Brunetta on -
Dear Sweet Lois: I know this news about your father is so hard to bear. It must be difficult not to be able to get to see your loved ones at a time like this. You are such a caring lovely person. WE ARE ALL HERE FOR YOU AND SO IS GOD.
He Blesses you always,
Brunetta
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Permalink Reply by Anna Kingsbury on -
I know things seem overwelming right now, but God has a way of working out things for us. My father died of Leukemia back in 2006, and it almost was peaceful. No more suffering. You can be with him in thought and prayer. Prayer is a pretty powerful tool and can do wonders. You need to stay strong for yourself too. Your body needs to repair, recover. Your dad knows you would be there if you could, and understands, even if he can not tell you so. Take care my friend. You are always in my thoughts and prayers!
Anna
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Permalink Reply by rick phillips on -
Lois:
These things are not understandable. If they were, and i knew what it was I would share it or give it away, but I don't. I can only say that you are part of a loving and caring group, who love you. I suppose it would be nicer if we could take part of the awful pain and distress in your life, but we cannot take it. What we can do is what so many have already done in this blog strand, and that is take part of it away with us. Know you are part of us and when you hurt we all hurt. When you laugh we all laugh, and I hope that you will take some comfort in knowing this even as you face your fathers illness, Know that we all share part of it.
rick phillips
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Permalink Reply by Debbie on -
My dear Lois,
Yes its me,finally back after some terrible setbacks in my sorrid little life., but do know that through faith and a strong trust in God things do turn around. I know when all of it starts piling up like what you are going through now its hard to trod through,,,but God doesnt want you to give up! We dont want you to give up! Like Rick said,,we are fighting with you and sharing your sadness and sorrows, Power of prayer is strong...and what a mighty prayer group you have!.
I am so sorry for what you are going through,,,,I will be praying hard for you and your family! I know its hard right now but stay strong and try to hold on to the positive thoughts,,,you need that for your self as well to get better. We dont know why these things happen to us and its not for us to question but for us to bear and trod through. You are strong Lois,,,look what you have already been through and set aside. You can do this too! We love you!
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Permalink Reply by Leticia on -
Lois My prayers are with you...For You and your family..May your father find peace and your sister her health...Did You have the surgery? Let us Know.God Bless
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Permalink Reply by Nancy on -
God will not put on us more than we can bear. I know we think we cannot handle it. That is where we have to trust the Lord. He knows what is going on. Trust in Him!
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Permalink Reply by Gerri on -
Oh Lois, am so very sorry for this additional sadness weighing on your heart. Didn't see this thread until today or would have replied sooner.
Of course it's hard to cope with. Who could? Made even harder by not being able to leave to see your dad. Just so much a person can take & then the universe dumps even more. Gee, I'm a great cheerer-upper!
Holding you in my heart, sweetie.
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