Someone on another site today admitted he lies to his doctors. He says they are very judgemental when he admits he is not doing the right things to have good control. They even treat him like he doesn't care about getting that control. He has a new doctor now who is kind and understanding and does not downgrade him but he is still telling a few lies. He is ashamed of admitting his bad habits.

I have lied to some doctors in the past but that was a long time ago. Now I have a doctor (for 31 years now) who understands me so well and I do NOT lie to him. We have built a great trust and friendship. If I do something completely different and it is working he makes a note and approves. It might be unpleasant the first time we lie to a doctor but if he/she is a good doctor and not judgemental then we owe it to ourselves to be completely honest so we can build that relationship of mutual trust. That is the kind of doctor-patient relationship that we all need. It is up to us to plant the seed and watch a great relationship grow!!

OK, I will climb down from my soap box and hush now. If any of you are guilty of lying to your doctor(s) please think about this and do the right thing for the sake of your good health.

Richard

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I confess I am guilty
Nice comeback. I was gonna say that. :D
i might lie to myself, but when it comes down to lying to anyone else my upbringing takes over. if i tried to lie i would probably grow the biggest nose you ever saw. i would have nightmares of my gramma throwing me into the closet with the bad ugly witch. which of course she never did but i wouldn't go near that closet either. which solved the problem of me sneaking out the front door all the time.
Hi Debb: :) I hope that you're doing Good.

I should have used that trick with my 3 yr. old. She was 1 Rascal. Knowing her, she would have gone into the closet just to spite me. :D
I did this in college because my doctor guilt-tripped me so badly. I never liked to admit getting a single reading over 200mg/dl, and would purposely avoid checking my BS when I knew I was high because of this (he would plug my meter into his computer at my appointments).

I realized how bad this was for me. I started skipping my endo appointments for as long as I could until I needed new prescriptions.

Eventually I switched endos, to one who is understanding and doesn't berate me for not being perfect, and I don't lie anymore. :)
Jaclyn, I sometimes use a different meter for what I call the "our of range" readings :P Specifically an old one touch mini without a download port.... so even if I bring it in, I can "show" that I've been testing X amount of times, but they can't get at the data. I don't consider this lying, as much as avoiding confrontation about things that happened weeks/months ago. Typically these are things that I've already handled, and I've moved on from... if I walked into an endo appointment at 500, then I'd have something to talk about, but I don't really need to rehash why I had a 508 and a HI three weeks ago, due to a "diet" coke mishap, KWIM?

I'm not high enough like that to truly effect my A1C, so I'm not worried about it.
I have lied to them in the past, and all that it got me was an a1c that was higher than should have been expected. I have learned that I have never told a lie that didn't come back to bite my in the a$$, so I try not to anymore, though it is hard to be 100% perfect. I don't lie to my endo anymore. The results are too obvious from the downloaded pump and meter information. It is not worth even trying.
i don't lie about the big stuff, the reason we go to the doctor is to help keep my son's a1c at an acceptable level.

HOWEVER - i do lie about the size of the cannula we use on his animas inset II infusion sets. we use the 6 mm, even though they have told us it's not recommended because they are too short and could fall out. we've never had one fall out and he complains the 9 mm are painful. he is six and has NO body fat. the 6 mm works for us. if they ask i just say it's a 9 mm. :)
Only if it gets me more test strips.
I won't lie, but I may decline to volunteer information, particularly if it is just going to end up with a distracting conflict. But I feel like I have a duty to be honest with my doctor or I will compromise his ability to take care of me.

I've been called lots of things by doctors. I have been told I'm fat and stupid. I've been told to lay off the sugar. The doctors feelings just don't matter to me. I've had so many doctors not really care how I felt or was doing, I'm just beyond that.

But I am with Richard on this one. I feel an obligation to be honest with the doctor. If I have fallen off the wagon and don't give a cr*p about things, he needs to know that. If I refused to take the medication he gave me, he needs to know that. I am the ultimate arbiter of my health decisions, even if they confict with what the doctor wants. I may decide to do something against my doctors recommendations, but it is wrong to not tell them and mislead them. If I mislead him in putting together my health decisions and planning, the only one I will harm is myself. The doctor will still get paid just as much, independent of how much I lied to him.
I'm kinda like FHS here just enouh to let him know but don't volunteer and more.
Part of this is that we go around believing we're superman, and we don't need any help. So we won't ever let the doc know we're having any problems at all, and we hide what problems there are.

BTW, the problems might be something we're doing wrong... or it might be something someone else is doing wrong. Or it might everyone doing everything right but the outcome isn't as expected.

It doesn't help that some (not all) docs really expect us to be superman but offer us no help, just criticism.

I would love it if the doc offered to help me become superman :-). But oh, the kryptonite!

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