Grr My wife is going d-pol on me. Twice this week we have butted heads. I don't mind the occasionally do you need that comment but don't tell me how to take care of my diabetes or compare me to my mother. Just venting
Oh I was ready to snap. My wife is big on natural foods and brought some natural peanut butter. No problem on my end until since it has no preservatives she wanted to add honey. Told her ok fine I will get my own. Not good enough. Then I had bolused for a nice yummy piece of cake. I go to the bathroom come back and bam she is taking the last piece for herself. Point out I only had one piece of the cake and wanted it.
To both of these she made comments like "well you don't care about sugar, what makes honey different", "Well you don't need the cake anyways, it to many carbs."
The kicker was last night dropped down to 55, feelings low and hungry, I scream for ice cream, finished off the mint chocolate chip and she tells me I could of given her some. "I'm low I need to eat". "How many times have you told your mother she needs more the M&Ms and that she needs to eat better" she replies. My mom takes to much insulin for her meals and or skips and eats junk all day. I on the other hand will snack, 20 Carb or less if I am under 85 somehow this is the same as eating close to a pound of M&Ms in my wife's eyes.
It really gets old trying to get ppl to understand don't it? One thing my hubby does is buy "real" Coke I on the other hand buy diet coke. When I fall low (I know I'm bad) I will grab his coke and drink it only to hear "That's MY coke you know you can't have Coke" To which I pop up and say "Had you rather take me to the hospital for a seizer" He usually backs down. He's seen so many of them he knows not to push too hard.
DON'T FEEL GUILTY!!!!!!!!! It's just a thing we all go through. My oldest cousin was a diabetic too she was 10 years older than me. I fussed at her all the time til I got it myself. Now I know how she felt at those times. Just do like I do let the D-Police just fall off your back (hey I've even gotten so good that folks will swear I'm listen to them while in my mind I'm planning what I will do later that day, next week, etc) Hold Strong Jim!!!!
You might want to try talking to her sometime, Jim, when you are both relaxed and in a good mood. (Not at the time of one of these incidents). Tell her why you would prefer she didn't play the D-police role, and could trust you to manage your own diabetes. All these little annoying comments can start to end up as resentments that your marriage doesn't need. If it really starts to be a wall between you, a couple sessions of couples counseling would help you talk to each other about the issues. But hopefully you can head it off at the pass before it gets to that point.
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