Grr My wife is going d-pol on me. Twice this week we have butted heads. I don't mind the occasionally do you need that comment but don't tell me how to take care of my diabetes or compare me to my mother. Just venting
She tries not to nag but only understands so much. I have tried to get her to read up on everything but I think she would rather be in the dark. Mostly because her family has a history of type-2, she is slightly over weight, PCOS and now we are pretty sure a thyroid issue(I keep hounding her to get to the dr), and I will suggest she gets a A1c every now and then.
Vent away! I don't want to hear that someone means well & it's because they love us because being intrusive is just that. My husband is the love of my life except when he goes police. At the slightest change in emotion I hear, "should you test?" & he starts bringing me the meter. Want to grab it from his hands & throw it against a wall. Feel like I'm not entitled to legitimate emiotional responses. Everything gets chalked up to a low or high. Yea, I've told him how infuriating this is. The only time he flashes the food badge is when we're out with friends. What's that about? Yea, I've also told him how humiliated this makes me feel. He also checks my meter for readings. I've thought of sticking a strip in sugar to log in a super high just for fun!
I think the whole "policing in front of friends and family" is some kind of deeply ingrained, caveman thing. He's unconsciously trying to show everyone that he can manage and take care of his woman. ;0)
Smile and tell him very sweetly, "Thanks, Grok, but I've got it under control."
I have to admit that I like the hand at the small of my back, the arm to hold when crossing the cobblestones, the hackles rising on the back of the neck when there are some unsavory characters nearby.
It's nice when they love us and want to protect us from harm.
But do we really need to be "protected" from one slice of pizza or 1/4 of a brownie at a holiday party? Really?
And do we really need to test our blood glucose (or be asked about our Aunt Dot...!!!) every, single time we get grumpy? Other people get grumpy, too, including our Type 0 heroes.
My husband used to ask me when he was acting like a jerk, "Honey is it that time of the month?" At least now that I'm post menopause he doesn't ask that any more. He's probably just thinking "What a b%$#@ !
Honestly I'm bad at anytime when my husband, kids or g-kids bring up the fact I need to test but I'm worse when I'm going low and they tell me to test my bs. Then I WON'T and they have to grab the meter and a finger (while I'm fighting them with all I have. Which by the time they catch it is not much but in my mind I think I'm fightingoff a bear) and test me. I'm usually below 25 when that happens. LOL! It has to look funny me fighting them with all I have while their simply trying to prick my finger. You Tube They need to veido it one time. Bet it gets the most hits. LOL!
You could ask her how her UTI was dong, the first second she plays that stupid control game. Or ask her how her cycle was progressing. Same type of utter insensitivity (IMHO). Should silence her short term anyway.
Oh, love to vent! My mom loves to go all D-Police at family gatherings and holidays. This past Thanksgiving, she decided to comment in front of everyone about my glass of wine (1 glass!). She shouted at me across the table, "Should you be drinking that!?! DON'T COME CRYING TO ME when your blood sugar is through the roof!"
1) I'm 32 years old, 2) she doesn't know anything about my blood sugar (no, really, I don't even think she knows what number is considered "high"), 3) alcohol can make me hypoglycemic, etc etc etc.
So, basically, my mom just wanted to embarrass me in front of everyone by treating me like a child and reminding us all that I'm the "diabetic" or "sick" one. Gee, thanks Mom. This is what Thanksgiving is about!
(And please, spare me the "your mom was just showing you she cares" comments. It's called "venting.")
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