i am not allowed to attend any sort of parties, hangouts, get together's and so on without my parents keeping an eye on my actions.. it requires a lot of effort convincing my parents as it requires involvement of my relatives, friends, brothers and sisters... its quite depressing.. i just cannot make commitments to my friends that i will surely come for the party... my parents believe that i will not be able to control my tongue once i see any sugar product in front of me....what should i do to handle this situation??? instead of crying alone that is showing off that i am brave enough to handle this and crying in a closed room without letting others to know about it that i usually do... :-/
thank you... :)
i am one and only child.... but i do have many cousin brothers and cousin sisters who live a very different lifestyle.... well i think i am a responsible girl... as i do not even have a boyfriend and my meter shows a controlled BG always( almost).. and thanx a lot............. :)
i will try my level best... thank you ...:)
I'm with George Burns on this one.
Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close knit family - in another city. George Burns
First of all be honest not only to your parents but to yourself.If you are going out or whatever - you still have to keep in mind what you have and that the intake of fats and fast acting sugars etc... need to be restricted.So I would advise you to substitute where possible for example go for the sugar free options ,and you can also get sugar free alcohol I think.It's understandable that parents with diabetic children would be worried but we are all not going to adapt unless you go out and experience and see how your body/glucose readings respond to whatever you are doing.Be safe though you do not want to be getting very low or high blood levels, you gotta play it smart.
Some "parties" you should NOT be attending regardless, for the very reason mom & dad are concerned about, and I'm not talking about your diabetes here. Now having said that in terms of just spending time with friends (who are not going to be dummy heads) that will require even more maturity from you, than you already possess, and some hard conversations.
"...Look mom, dad I'm a young woman, right? I do have friends, there will be get togethers, just being with them sometimes. A movie, hanging out at ABC's house... Unless you want me to be in a giant bubble, in which case we need to see somebody about your fears.
Now Id like to go to XYZ. You want to protect me, make sure I don't make too many dumb mistakes. I get that. But you guys are hurting me. Literally. I need to feel a little normal. That means, being with people my age, doing things with them.
Someday, I will move out, go to college and you cannot be in the room with me. I'd like to talk with you about this. So I can feel you're not always ONLY thinking of me as just a diabetic. I'm a teenager, becoming a young woman, NOT SOLELY just and only a diabetic...
Can we talk about this please?..."
You are a teenager AND a diabetic too, rough times, hard issues. Your friends have the identical issues, except for the blood sugar games. Worst case, with time you will figure out how to cope with your parents fears... and be able to live in spite of them.
Those parties are fun!
hmm.. they are.... and the best part is meeting old school friends again... :)
thank you... that's really cool... will surely try these words....thank you...:)
I am a parent of a 16 year old non-diabetic and an 8 year old diabetic. My goal in life is to allow my child with diabetes to have all the same opportunities as the one without. I have to remind myself of this often as it is really hard to let go and allow some control. Reading your post is actually a really good reminder to me of the importance of allowing some freedoms now so by the time she is your age I am OK with completely letting go. Thanks for sharing!!
I think the first kid may be the hardest. Your parents may still see you as younger than you are (I know I do with my kids). Your parents may not realize that their restrictions are unreasonable. It is time for them to give you some freedom and allow you to make a few mistakes. Is there an adult that you can enlist to talk to your parents? Maybe an aunt or uncle that your parents might listen to? I know that it helps me to hear how others handle these things.
I have to admit, I am having difficulty letting go with my 16 year old as well. She feels like I do not trust her as well. I must say that I really do trust her, but it still scares me to send her out on her own. You have expressed that you are trustworthy, so I really think this is an issue of fear and control on your parents part more so than trust. Try not to allow your parents control problems affect how you feel about yourself; I really do not think their behavior has nothing to do with you. Be proud of how responsible you are. You will eventually be out on your own and be able to make your own decisions on what you share with them.
I wish you the best of luck and hope that you get through to your parents and have a great and trusting relationship in the future.
Your life is being micro-managed by your parents and you are allowing it to happen. Don't complain, move out! I am a parent and a type 1, and I can see it from both sides.
Eat, drink, and be happy! We're only diabetics, there are so many other issues out there that are much worse than this. Eat what you want, because you know how to control yourself and your BG's. People love to dwell on their shortcomings, if this is the worst you have to worry about in life then count your blessings!