HI I am 28 years old, been a type 1 for 20 years. I have always struggled with my glucose control. I am at a point in my life where I would like to start having kids. I may also add that I had a stent placed in my heart 2 yrs ago and have early kidney issues. My husband who is in the army and wants kids will be leaving for Honduras in a month, and be gone for a year. I am looking at this time apart to get my bg in control and prepare my body for pregnancy. I realize I have more than just the diabetes to challenge this, the cardiovascular and kidney issues worry me too. I need some women to be very honest with me and who can relate to tell me if its worth it? or should adoption be a better option? Any pearls of wisdom would be greatly appreciated :)
Hi! MsCourtney. Sorry but I'm not a woman, but I think If you have a good support team of family members and friends that can help it would be a great idea to start a family! Good luck!
Hi MsCourtney, I think you're doing the right thing by making your health care your top priority for the next year (and hopefully that will carry on as habits are established). Whether you get pregnant or adopt, you want to be as healthy as you can be because your child will be depending on you. My daughter has always been my motivation in taking care of my health.
I would suggest you start with a candid conversation with your endo and also a perinatologist (a specialist in high risk pregnancies) because they will know your medical history best. I wish you the very best and take care of yourself!
Hi MsCourtney...I was in the same situation as you...got three stents when I was 31. Hubby and I really wanted kiddos, so I went off all my meds after a year(plavix, lisinopril, lipitor) while we tried...had difficulty getting pregnant (husband issues), and went back on the meds...unfortunantly it was too late, and I ended up having a pretty significant heart attack and needed a 5 vessal by-pass. I don't say this to scare you... So I guess the question is this...are you on any meds that you would have to come off of? We are going the adoption route and are very excited about it...I have decided that- FOR ME- the risk is not worth being pregnant. I am going to be a mom regardless if the baby came out of my belly or not...and I guarentee you that at 3 am when I have a crying baby to tend to, I will not be thinking about if she/he is biologically linked to me or not. If you want to send me a message please do so, I know what a difficult time I had initially trying to decide what way to go.
I am a T1 woman. No kids yet, but am considering it. I've had honest conversations with my endo and Obgyn. Basically, I would be considered very high risk, but they feel that because my control is generally good and my complications are minor at this point, that I could get pregnant and have a very good chance of having a healthy baby and coming out healthy myself. Of course, this would involve very intensive monitoring, lots of doctors' appointments, and much diligence on my part to keep my control as tight as possible.
I think you need to have honest conversations with your care team (endo, obgyn, etc) and ultimately make a decision based on the facts. NO PREGNANCY is without risk, but being T1 and having your complications, the risks are obviously higher (probably more for you than the baby).
How important is it for a baby to be genetically related to you and your husband? For me, a genetic tie has never been that important; I know I'd love any child, regardless of where it came from. But that's me.
The most important thing to keep in mind is that you need to be around and healthy to raise the child. Getting pregnant is a very small part of having a child. It's the 18 years that follow that are most important :-)
I don't want to tell you one way or another, because I agree with our fellow TUers here that it's a frank discussion you need to have with your healthcare support and your family. But I will say that you have to think beyond the pregnancy/adoption as well.
I have two boys who are 3 and 5 this year. Both me and my husband work full-time and it's been a big struggle to take care of the kids and take care of myself. I'm sick a lot with flu or head colds and it's very tough to tell them "mommy is sick, let me rest." It's not easy on your body to get up in the middle of the night with the baby. It's not easy to take care of a sick child when you're sick. I've been in hot water with my work bc of the amount of time I have to take off for specialist appts and sick days, then add to it all the sick days I take to care for my kids when they are sick.
Is it worth it? Of course it is. But that doesn't mean that it isn't really hard.
Hi MsCourtney, I agree with the others - having an open and honest discussion with your endo, OB, and a perinatologist is the place to start. If you are sure you want to try for a pregnancy, find a supportive medical team and work with them.
You may also find the TuD group Oh Baby!a helpful place to discuss pregnancy related issues. I know I did when I was pregnant.
I also found the book Balancing Pregnancy with Pre-Existing Diabetes very helpful.
I am a T1, 31 year old. About 18 months ago, I really started buckling down to get my numbers where they needed to be. It was hard work - harder once I got pregnant and the hormones started changing everything in ways that they had never done in the 15 years before with D.
But when I delivered my son a week and a half ago it was worth every frustration, every fear, every rude comment by the uniformed masses. I do not have many other health issues to deal with, but being a mom (whether by birth or adoption) is worth pursuing. Whatever you decide, give it your all and you will do fine!