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Permalink Reply by Zoe on December 14, 2012 at 6:29pm

When I read this post, I thought Buckley was talking about a shooting incident in a Portland mall which happened a few days ago. Until I watched the news and heard about the school shooting. How shocking is that that I didn't know which of many incidents was meant? As I watched the news they flashed a statistic on the screen. (This was ABC World News). What percentage of American households own a gun? 47%! 47%!!! That's crazy.

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Permalink Reply by Kelsey on December 9, 2012 at 4:48pm

Would just like to put my two cents in. I shared this news because I needed the love and support. I guess I was wrong. While you can look up statics all you want, I'm NOT a static. I'm not going to know "ditto" education. When I said this child wouldn't mess up anything, what was meant to say is it isn't going to detour my goals. I need positive support so if you only have negative and saying I can't do it then fell free to delet me. I'm so close to deleting my account anyway. Thank you to the ones who believe in me and have been there for me.
Sorry if it seems harsh but I don't need I can't and negative comments...because I CAN and WILL succeed..
Thanks, Kels.

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Permalink Reply by Stemwinder on December 9, 2012 at 5:33pm

Hi Kelsey, Everyone here supports you but wants you to realize just how much baby is going to change your life. Not to try and sway any decision you might make but to help prepare you for the life changing events that are in store for you.

Make no mistake baby will mess things up in ways you don't quite yet realize but if your mature enough to handle the responsibilities parenthood can also bring untold joy.

Sometimes a reality check is a form of support and not criticism at all.

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Permalink Reply by Zoe on December 9, 2012 at 5:35pm

Sometimes what we need most in life is someone to tell us the truth. It isn't being negative when you suggest someone look more closely at choices and what consequences they entail. It's called maturity. And no, I disagree Christy that we need to just blindly support anything someone proposes, no matter how precipitous; that isn't friendship and support in my book. Personally I don't think Kelsey has spent countless hours and nights thinking about it. She was only three weeks pregnant when she posted.

I also have concern, Kelsey, about your health and that of the baby. You haven 't shared details, but you have been in the hospital recently and have posted about medical problems which may or may not be D related. Pregnancy with Type 1 is hard, though certainly many women do it successfully. But it takes rigorous control and absolutely tight management and good health. To go into it with anything less is perilous. I'm sorry you don't like my response, Kelsey. I've spoken with many people with life affecting choices to be made and I think the most supportive thing you can do is help them have a realistic idea of consequences. That's a lot more supportive than blind cheer leading.

And again, if you were ready to be a mother you would realize that yes, a baby will and should detour your goals. Because with a baby your main goal needs to be that child's well being.

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Permalink Reply by Joe_h on December 10, 2012 at 7:02am

good luck!

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Permalink Reply by Brian Wittman on December 10, 2012 at 8:55pm

Hang in there, Kelsey. You don't have to be a statistic, nor do you need to stand for ridicule from others. I think that in the end, you will get what you want. I continue to believe that you are a bright and vibrant young lady. I applaud you for handling some very rough statements in a very dignified manner.

Be well.

Brian Wittman

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Permalink Reply by Kelsey on December 11, 2012 at 1:34am

Thank you! Thank you soo much for believin in me..(:

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Permalink Reply by Brian Wittman on December 13, 2012 at 3:42pm

My privilege and my pleasure. ;)

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Permalink Reply by Benjamin McLaughlin on December 10, 2012 at 9:26pm

I hope you haven't deleted your account Kelsey, or if you did you come back, because the one thing about this place is the ability to have different opinions, learn from multiple points of view, and use them all to grow and get better. If all this was was a "yes man" forum, not a lot would get accomplished.

I am closing in on my second year of marriage, and if you would have told me how marriage really is the day before we got married, I would have said you were crazy, my marriage was going to be like the movies (the good ones at least!) Well, then you have two different families all colliding at once, my personal goals in my career being shifted to become "our" goals, single friends still wanting me to be single, but I'm not and I can't act like I was. So many things that you either don't hear, or you hear but you will say "that won't happen to me" but it does. Crazy thing is, I wouldn't trade my life and marriage for anything! Yes it may be different than what we both imagined, but it is the single greatest thing that has happened to me!

I can see how this might parallel your situation. I think what Zoe and Acid Rock are both saying is that, sure you should still have goals and things you want to accomplish in life, but keep an open mind that there most definitely will be a different road to take to reach some of those goals than you had originally anticipated. It WILL be harder than you think, because that is life, nothing is ever as we think it will be. But, with the right support from your family, and with a lot of growing up that will occur naturally from you, you can stand here 2 to three years from now like Acid Rock is and can honestly say it is the best thing that has every happened to you! Instead of just wanting a handout, take the advice from every post on here, the ones you like and the ones you don't.

I hope for you and your child's life that everything works out for the best. I can't imagine what it's like, but I am looking forward to that day! Let your haters be your motivators and prove the statistics wrong, for your baby's sake! Good luck!

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Permalink Reply by Molly on December 10, 2012 at 10:07pm

Hi Kelsey,
I couldn't stop thinking about you and this discussion last night. Some words may seem harsh but really they are meant to help you realize that this new life changing event of yours is going to be amazingly challenging, just like D. It's a lot. I couldn't imagine being type one and pregnant, not too mention only 16. I have a 15 year old and daily she needs my help and she does't have D or a baby on the way. Don't stop posting. also don't think that people writing things you don't want to hear is meant to criticize you or hurt you. Life doesn't always go as planned. Stay healthy, learn a lot, think about all your options and ask for and accept help. Good luck.

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Permalink Reply by Kelsey on December 11, 2012 at 1:31am

Thank you! I know it's going to be rough. I know it's going to be hard. But at the end of the day it's your decession. At least I'm not taking the easy way out. I'm dealing with my actions and finishing school. Doesn't mean I can't or won't be a good mom for finishing school since that's my goal, just means I'll want to better my child's future. Thank you to those who support me. Means a lot at this time!

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Permalink Reply by andrea on December 12, 2012 at 2:32pm

CONGRATS!!!!! So happy for you!

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