Hey everyone out there need some help.
I am not sure how to cope any more. For years I have been able to handle it but it seems like lately it has gotten more and more difficult. I am a T2 on a insulin pump, I have my A1C hovering at 7.6 down from a high of 13 years ago.
I am dealing with people in my life family, and friends, and co-workers who seem to think they know more than I do. I have read book after book after book about diabetes. I understand it like many of us on here do. I know I shouldn't just sit down and eat sugar, or eat unhealthy food, but I have to admit I like to spoil myself and eat some tasty stuff along with the healthier items.
How do you handle people at work, or in your life thinking that a diabetic can't eat this or that? How do you deal with it, I find it is adding more and more stress to my life, and am tired of explaining myself to people. Granted I am not under 7% but 7.6 if I was doing something that bad would be off the charts.
Curious to hear how you all handle this, and ways to handle stress that comes along with diabetes in general. For example my insulin just went up to 100 bucks a month for the same amount that I paid for last year and it was 25 a month. Anyone have tricks up your selves to deal with all the stress that we all get from diabetes?
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Laughed at this video! I like his advise at the end kill her with kindness! Will have to remember that :)
I have to say this video cracked me up, and I needed that. I think I am going to take the polite but direct way to get people to understand I am able to handle it. It's one thing if its my wife, she has a little more invested =) but co-workers who know nothing about my condition just drive me up a wall! Thanks for the info!
Hi damon, i read this thread earlier and did not reply, i just stopped my yoga practice because you were on my mind! here is what i think, the other responders were very concerned with your a1c, and your control, yes your control, not to be compared to anyone elses, you have made big improvements. in anycase your question had more to do with how to respond to coworkers that judge you in the name of concern for your 'condition'. we all make multiple decisions daily that effect our heath, i am sure all of your coworkers decisions are not always the best, i would tell them that their 'concern' is making you feel worse about your diabetes, you are a well educated grown up that knows what is best for your health. my son is 13 and i pretty much let him eat normal for now, which is 85 % healthy i would say as he gets older, the whole family will try to go more low carb. but anyways it is your life, your decisions, tell then thank you but no thank you, ask them how would you feel if everything you ate was always under scrutiny! no offense to them but they may not realize the discomfort they are causing you. i hope you work this out and keep trying your best everyday it is empowering to make healthy choices one at a time, but it is also ok to have something you crave once in a while! best of luck back to my yoga, on no missed my window of opportunity, i need to make dinner, i hope my effort was worthwhile and you feel better! amy
Mom first I hope you got to finish yoga I feel bad for you having to stop! =) I think you're on to it, like some others, I really need to confront them and tell them what I think or what I am doing in a polite way to get them to mind their own business.
My family (wife and kids) have been nothing but supportive and eat healthy sometimes healthier than I want to but they are good at encouraging me to do the right thing. Best of luck with your son, I feel bad for kids having to go through diabetes it is no fun at all for kids being able to see their friends eat anything and not even think about it.
Thanks for the input it does make me feel better!
I am wondering if you could try for a direct approach with the people at work next time they make an unwelcome comment. Something along the lines of "I appreciate your concern and want you to know that I am working on it with my doctors. I would really like to have a good relationship with my co-workers that does not involve diabetes, so I would appreciate it if we could talk about other things." I would think that would shut them up without hurting your relationship.
I must say that I have really not talked to my co-workers (only my boss who is very supportive) or even friends about my diabetes. I guess I am worried that I would get the same reaction that you have gotten. It is too bad that people cannot be more supportive.
I wish you the best.
Just don't explain yourself, right when they try to say something just change the subject immediately and continue eating...