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Permalink Reply by Doris D on May 21, 2012 at 2:20pm

That's one thing that gave me my sence of humor! I thought he was totally nuts!!! LOL! Life huh???

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Permalink Reply by Zoe on May 21, 2012 at 2:24pm

That makes me angry, Doris. And personally, I'm not willing to lay it down to ignorance, but just plain meanness. Even if your child gets something you don't know anything about you just say, "well I don't know what this is but I'll help you get through it". You are one of the sweetest people on here and I'm sorry you heard that all those years ago. I hope maybe sharing it today you can let go of it and know you're a good person and a good mom, and D is just a burden you were handed that you deal with the best you know how. It has no impact on who you are!

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Permalink Reply by Doris D on May 21, 2012 at 2:26pm

Thank U Zoe!! I love that reply. Yes he was plain mean. Life he made it hard for both my mom & me then my daughter

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Permalink Reply by Brunetta on May 21, 2012 at 2:48pm

Yes, that was a mean thing to say. VERY mean. I am glad you got it off your chest. You did not inheirit his meanness: you are so very kind and sweet, so be so very glad of that. I will call you later.

God bless,
Brunetta

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Permalink Reply by Doris D on May 21, 2012 at 2:50pm

Ok Thanks! I'll be waiting for ur call

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Permalink Reply by Joyce on May 21, 2012 at 2:49pm

So sorry Doris. I had a dad very similar to yours. It's amazing how long words can stay with you. He was totally out of line with that remark.

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Permalink Reply by Doris D on May 21, 2012 at 2:53pm

U got the same name as my mother. Cool! It is mazing how long words can stay with u isn't it?? I'm so sorry ur dad was like mine.

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Permalink Reply by Zoe on May 21, 2012 at 3:53pm

Emotional abuse (which is what we call saying mean and hyper critical things to someone, especially a child) can be more damaging than even physical abuse, because we take the things said inside ourselves and feel like we deserved them!

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Permalink Reply by Doris D on May 21, 2012 at 4:20pm

Back in 73 though they didn't have the emotinal abuse thing. Now they do

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Permalink Reply by lotsofshots on May 21, 2012 at 3:23pm

Oh my Doris, I just went over to say hi on your page when I saw this discussion. You must have been feeling awful about this for a long, long time. I am so sorry that you had to be hurt by such an uncaring attitude and hurtful statment. I can't believe that anyone could be so heartless. I know that you loved your dad and helped him all his life, especially when he was sick. You are a wonderful and kind person and I am glad that you got this off your chest. I hope that talking about it helped.

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Permalink Reply by Doris D on May 21, 2012 at 3:28pm

Thank U Lots. I have gotten my mom's sunnyside there! LOL! I felt really bad about this for a VERY long time but seeing the answers here has helped me alot. Yep the heartless part would be my dad.Yes I tried to do my best b/f he passed for him but life u know???

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Permalink Reply by jeffojeda on May 21, 2012 at 3:36pm

I can only imagine how this has affected your life. I can honestly say, that I hope that having said it out loud and hearing all the great remarks from folks helps you understand that you're not at fault, that he was wrong and while he may not admit it, he now knows it. That hurts him more than admitting his mistake to you. It seems like you've treated your children a lot better than he did. I hope you can find peace in that. I tip my hat to you and loudly exclaim, "you go girl!" you rock!

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