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Permalink Reply by Doris D on May 21, 2012 at 3:41pm

Thank U this discussion has so helped me!!! It had some really bad affects on my life there for awhile. But Now I REALLY want to help those who are just diagnones or exp the teens and young ppl who have just heard their diagnoses.

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Permalink Reply by acidrock23 on May 21, 2012 at 4:26pm

I might be as bad as your dad as I've mentioned to my parents that they should watch what they eat because they at risk being related to me...

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Permalink Reply by Zoe on May 21, 2012 at 4:37pm

I don't think that is the same thing. My brother was diagnosed pre-diabetic, then lost some extra weight and is now below diagnostic level. I also told him (gently) that he will still need to keep an eye on it and that their is a genetic factor.

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Permalink Reply by silver on May 21, 2012 at 5:03pm

Sadly, there r so many parents out there that say horrible things everyday to their children not realizing how much damage they're doing! I've told many parents b4 that the world is cruel enough...home is where children should feel safest & most accepted (I investigate child abuse)! Sorry u had to deal with that for so long!  

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Permalink Reply by Doris D on May 21, 2012 at 5:23pm

Ur so right there silver. I done my best to not do that such thing to my kids!

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Permalink Reply by Asma on May 21, 2012 at 6:42pm

We don't get to choose our parents. Our kids can't choose either. It's how life is. You shouldn't beat yourself up for something you can't change. Genes are a complex matter and diabetes type 1 is a big bundle of mystery. Your dad shouldn't have said that to you and if we're pointing fingers, logically, he's one to blame and not you.

Technically speaking, The risk of a child developing type 1 diabetes is about 10% if the father has it, about 10% if a sibling has it, about 4% if the mother has type 1 diabetes and was aged 25 or younger when the child was born, and about 1% if the mother was over 25 years old when the child was born.[The risk of a child developing type 1 diabetes is about 10% if the father has it, about 10% if a sibling has it, about 4% if the mother has type 1 diabetes and was aged 25 or younger when the child was born, and about 1% if the mother was over 25 years old when the child was born.[joslin]
Blaming you for your daughter's diabetes is equally unjust as your blaming a brother for diabetes simply because he has it. And honestly, 10% is a pretty low figure to bet on.
[http://www.joslin.org/info/genetics_and_diabetes.html]

So don't over think it. She's probably grateful for being alive despite having diabetes. I know I am :-)

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Permalink Reply by Doris D on May 22, 2012 at 5:14am

My daughter told me a few years ago that she didn't blame me for the Type 1. That helped me sooooo much. My dad made me feel guilty for years about her having it. according to her "Mom it's a minor incovenice thank you for having me" Bless her. That was wonderful to hear!!!

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Permalink Reply by jrtpup on May 21, 2012 at 7:05pm

We can't pick our families, we're stuck with them, good or bad. Sorry you were so hurt as a child Doris.

We can choose our friends though, and I'm happy to have someone as kind as you as one of my friends!

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Permalink Reply by Doris D on May 22, 2012 at 5:15am

Thank U pup!!! Yes life was hard then but now it's MUCH better!

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Permalink Reply by Doris D on May 22, 2012 at 5:19am

I just wanna put in here that my daughter was born missing her left hand and at the age of 11 she was diagnosed. Kinda made feel extra sad for her. Life huh????

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Permalink Reply by Sophia'smommyLori on May 22, 2012 at 7:15am

:( Sorry you have had to go through that. Just more inspiration for me as a parent of a T1 child to always be positive about her treatment/management of T1. Of course, I NEVER even thought about blaming her when she was diagnosed and we have many conversations about how many children she will have since she wants to be a mommy too one day. And would you know, at 6 yrs old she is already concerned her children will have T1. I just tell her they may or may not but if they do they can be strong just like she is, my little ray of sunshine :)

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Permalink Reply by Sam Iam on May 22, 2012 at 7:51am

Sorry to hear your dad was such a tyrant. It seems that his attitudes were more common a generation ago. I hope my son doesn't develop D, but if he does (~10%), he'll be very well prepared. Besides, having to work through some adversity makes you a much stronger person than getting everything the easy way.

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