I was just recently diagnosed with type 1 in Jan and at the time I was in a relationship and he was great about everything. Since then we have broke up and I would like to start dating again. My question is when and how do you bring up to a guy about diabetes?

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I normally bring it up on the first date,especially if we are going to eat. I have decided that those who have a problem with it aren't worth being around anyway. You have to have full support with diabetes. I was married for 17 years to a man that wasn't fully supportive and it was difficult, to say the least. Those that can't deal with it aren't mature enough or worthy enough for you. Best wishes!!!!
Me personally I think it depends on many factors. If you go out to dinner and don't feel like tell him then go to the bathroom and take your insulin. I probably would tell him on the first date. Who knows if u will like him yourself. Now after the fist date if he wants to continue to date I would tell him. I would do this before I have a chance to get attach in case he decides that is something he can't deal with. The right will not care if u have diabetes.
I agree that the earlier the person of interest is told the better. While Diabetes is just one piece of your entire being, it is nevertheless an important and priority piece. Support from your companion is critical to your physical and mental well-being, and the overall health of the relationship.

Now a question for you: Being diagnosed so recently, how did you get on the pump so quickly??

When I was leaving the hospital after being diagnosed the nurse suggested a pump but because I didn't yet know about the ominpod, I declined because I didn't want to be bothered with the tubing. I was diagmosed with type 1 the last week of May 2011 and started on the omnipod last week (November 2011). It could have been sooner but I didn't know about my options for different pumps until October.

I've been diabetic for 30 years so I really don't know any different. I date... I just say it, plain & simple...Usually during dinner or whatever. I check my blood sugars so often that it will usually happen during the date. Most people have known someone with diabetes, or they will ask questions, they seem genuinely interested and inquisitive. I've never felt awkward about it. I've never had a negative reaction. I've never had a problem, ever. You're gonna get so used to it & become a pro! :) Good luck - Go get 'em!!!
I would usually not tell guys on the first date, but by the second. I think I was always a lot more self conscious about diabetes (even though I was diagnosed at 10 years old) than a lot of people on this site. It turns out, though, that I told my now fiance on the first date. We were at dinner and my pump started beeping at me because the battery was low. He wanted to know what it was, so I told him.
I wear an omnipod, and frequently put it on an arm, where it's quite visible. So no one knows me very long before they notice and ask what it is. I've been lucky that no one, romantic interest or otherwise, has ever expressed anything but interest about it. I think if any date ever caused me to feel self-conscious about having diabetes I'd consider that a deal-breaker.

I've only been using the omnipod for a little over a week but I've worn it on both arms and you are right, people are very interested to know what it is and how it works.

I am newly diagnosed as well (July), and single and dating. My mom suggested that I not tell the guy until I was more confident in how I felt about him and vice versa. Because I feel so vulnerable about my diabetes, she didn't want me to tell him and if it turned out he wasn't interested in me then to have me worry that it was the diabetes. Of course, this could happen at any time in a relationship but people often get "weeded out" more in the beginning stages of a relationship.

Once a guy saw my pump on the first date, and asked what it was, and I said "Oh, I have type 1 diabetes.". He was cool with it, and we carried on in our conversation.

On another date, I didn't want to bring it up, so before dinner I went to 'wash my hands' (which should not have to be in quotation marks, but hey I'll be honest, it doesn't happen all the time) but really I went to go check my sugar levels. I didn't want to bleed in front of someone without asking them how they felt about the sight of blood, and I didn't really see myself bringing up that question nonchalantly without explaining the diabetes. But by the end of the date, things were going well, and I wanted to open up more about the diabetes. I think I may have said something like "you don't know anything about type 1 diabetes, do you?". He knew a little bit, and I shared with him that I was a diabetic. Also, he wasn't squeamish around blood, even though he was vegan (yay), haha.

Other than that, people at my university and church and other social circles have been around me enough to see me check my levels or take insulin or what-not, so with other guys it's already a pre-known thing, you know?

Well, those are my stories!

Hey! I used to think the same thing, like when is it appropiate? Or will they understand? I was diagnosed with Type 1 right before I turned 18. I am now 25, and still think its a pain in the butt! But I do think its important to mention it at the right time in the beginning. Only because it def is a big part of your life. Also, if the person you are dating knows and understand, then they might be the perfect match for you :)

Each to their own, before N and I started dating I told him up front that I'm diabetic, childfree, and pagan if he had an issue with any of the three we could remain friends no harm no fowl.

I was the same way with the last few ex's after the bloke I'd been dating up and left within an hour of me telling him I was diabetic - ticked me right off he did so from then on I was like fine, up front before dating happens.

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