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Permalink Reply by Natalie ._c- on October 20, 2011 at 2:02pm

I'm SO sorry to hear that! I can't imagine how horrible this must be for both of you. :-(

Is he able to talk? If so, he can tell you what to do about his diabetes. But it would also do you a lot of good to get help, both by investigating as much as you can on the internet, and also being persistent about asking questions of his health providers and therapists and nurses. This is so much more complex than just diabetes -- there are a whole bunch of things you will need to learn to deal with, WHILE you are still emotionally devastated. :-(

Remember to take care of yourself, too. You can't take care of him if YOU are drowning. Be well!

Permalink Reply by Angie Howard on October 20, 2011 at 2:10pm

He can talk but not clearly. His memory is in tact but the part of his brain he injured int eh accidnet is the part that tells you how to walk and talk and swallow etc. Hes been on here for awhile his name on here is Lee Howard i have kept a blog under his name the whole time. I know how to operate his feeding tube and machiene, how to help him bathe in bed on bad days, how to help him shower, how to dress him but i can not help him get in and out of bed or his wheel chair i need back surgery and cant lifta t all. But i can push his wheel chair.

Permalink Reply by Natalie ._c- on October 20, 2011 at 2:20pm

I don't begin to know the ins and outs of your state disability benefits or your insurance benefits, but I do know there are programs where a disabled person can receive attendant care for just the things you are talking about -- getting in and out of bed, bathing, dressing, into and out of the wheelchair, etc. You need to call, maybe your state dept. of rehabilitation? Time to do your homework. There may also be a Center for Independent Living, which can point you to the right resources for help. You really DON'T have to go this alone.

Hang in there, sweetie! I can tell you love this guy, and that's so beautiful. :-)

Permalink Reply by Angie Howard on October 20, 2011 at 3:49pm

I do i love him so much, when he hurts i hurt! he had run to the gas station down the road about 2 miles, we live in the country, at exactually 8pm i started to feel sick and panicky i just knew something was wrong with, tried calling his cell 2 times and got nothing, called my mom she said i was over reacting, called him again and got a cop, he was hit at exactually 8pm. He will have home health care no cost to use, michigan no fault pays 100 percenet of bills already are over 5 million

Permalink Reply by Emmy on October 20, 2011 at 6:18pm

You need to get a lift installed in the bedroom, with a ceiling track running into the bathroom. This way you won't have to lift him, just help him get into the sling. The lift will raise him, take him to the bathroom, and you can lower him into it. Look into government funding for it. If you can't get funding for a ceiling track type of lift, then look into a portable lift instead. There are some descriptions on this page. There should be some sort of government funding for it in your area.

http://www.safeliftingportal.com/patientlifts/product-guide.html

If you end up injuring yourself, where will he be then? He'd had to go into a nursing home.

Try to get funding for an aid to come in to help with the bathing. Even with an aid, the ceiling track system or portable lift will be very helpful.

This video shows you how a Hoyer type lift can help http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EP2myQVns9s

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dfxdhBRPHNM&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xAlBgKAXYnA&feature=related

How to transfer yourself from wheelchair to bed, one your husband might find helpful.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWzcIl1SGgw&feature=related

Permalink Reply by Angie Howard on October 20, 2011 at 6:25pm

Everything is paid for 100 percent by our car insurace for live, including home health care around teh clock, he can stand with little help its just i cant risk it for me