Married with Diabetes…


Married with Diabetes…

A support groups for diabetics and spouses living with a diabetic. A place to meet and share tips experiences and even a little humor for better mutual understanding.

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"...I'm sorry..."

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Devastating day.

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Comment by bikette on September 24, 2012 at 6:14am

My parents paid for our wedding - all of it, the dress, the cake, the reception, ceremony, honeymoon, trousseau - EVERYthing. And about 12 years later, my mom wrote me a letter addressed to me, in my maiden name (and I never let her live it down either ;-).
Mistakes are everywhere so hopefully she can write that off as a typo... and also anything to do with babies is generally addressed to the mommy if for no other reason, she is more likely to have custody of the baby.... That's just statistics, not an opinion. You've had 13 years of the 'old' you.... give yourselves both some time to adapt to the 'new' you.

Comment by Wayne on September 24, 2012 at 1:48am

I’ve been reading some of the past discussions where non diabetic spouses are frustrated with diabetic spouses. I ask: how can a spouse not be supportive when I try to change my bad Eating habits. I’ve got to develop new habits, I can fix this. It takes time but with hard work and commitment develop good carb counting habits. Yet, there is little confidence in her mind that it will change. How can my wife of 13 years think that she mad a mistake marrying me because I’M a diabetic? I willing to change and grow but it seems I’m doing it alone.
One scared ass father of 3, married type-1 diabetic Diagnosed 25 years ago

Comment by Wayne on September 24, 2012 at 1:33am

I feel the goal is just out of my reach? It’s been a long few weeks while I continue to improve my life as a type 1 diabetic, yet simple things have such huge effects. My wife of 13 years finds it hard to believe that by working together we can have a happy life with my disease. she is a very strong minded Influential personality and a Non-Linear thinker where I am a Direct personality, Linear thinker and a type-1 diabetic for 25 years. we are struggling to stay together with 3 young children 7,8 and 11. My A1C is 6.5 but I have too many lows after too many unplanned highs from over compensating with quick insulin. 25 years with no typical diabetic disabilities; feet are in great shape, eyes good, kidneys ok, etc......
Yet I can't help my wife feel less worried every time I eat; ever time we go out to a family party and I have too many nibbles on snake foods; every time we go out with friends and I have a drink. I want to feel normal like every one of our friends. God; how can alcoholism or drug addiction be worse then this? Please tell me i'm not crazy!

August I rode the Make-a-Wish 300 mile bike ride. Three days, 100 miles each pulling my teammates at 20 mph into the wind or over every hill; what a rush knowing I’m more then human like Captain America or Thor! Last April I completed my 2nd marathon in Knoxville TN. Four hours 25 min; 26.2 miles plus 5210 feet vertical assent. I know I will not last for forever but I came to tears while crossing the finish line knowing I’m not suppose to be there. I'm supposed to be half blind or on crunches but I’m not; I’m just a guy with a disease.

Today I not only counted every carb but I planned the carbs for the entire day. I never believed it would be better then running. it was poetic! sugars stayed below 150 and not uncontrolled lows. All this without exercise. yet my wife doesn’t believe the data or my excitement that I can improve the control of highs and lows.
she came home today from a weekend at her parents where she opened their mailbox to find a letter from the Gerber Life Insurance company addressed to her in her maiden name. she askes herself if this is a sign? She receives this letter the only day she spends the night back home; “it must be” she thinks. WTF I'm not a Captain or a God , I’m scared of loosing my wife and I’m a type-1 Diabetic.

Comment by Cabaretro- The Diabetic Dancer on June 13, 2012 at 9:53am

Thank you for the add to your group.Please view another television interview on diabetes.

Here is my latest interview.

I just filmed a segment for CBS's The Doctors set that aired May 9th, 2012. Here is the video clip from CBS's The Doctors.

I can also be found on facebook talking daily about diabetes. Feel free to request me as a friend.

Comment by JDavid on July 2, 2011 at 3:42pm
I read that type-1 vs type-2 link at Mental_floss, Those KNowledge junkies NEED a FIX, a fix of EDUCATION!

According to Joslin, U know THE diabetes experts, and others, Joslin has a 50yr club of sorts. They have documented a confirmed TYPE-1 that still has some insulin (but limited) production after FIFTY years as a type-1.

Here are some basics as I know them....

Type-1..there are TWO recognized subgroups
.........type-1a yep autoimmune, the most comon form of type-1
.........type-1b non autoimmune, aka atypical T1, or idopathic.

Type-2... The main most common feature of type-2 is insulin RESISTANCE.
..... While most have weight issues, there are a few skinny T-2s. In T-2 the body produces insulin, sometimes MORE than normal, in an effort to ever come the insulin resistance. Over time some T2's burn out their pancrease from over working it, naturally or due to oral meds.

Regardless of diabetes TYPE, the complications and treatment goals are about the same.

The diabetes Dx (diagnostic) waters get muddy often, and mis-information abounds. Everything diabetes is not always clear cut, and everyone does not fit PIGeon holes.

Comment by Terrie on May 11, 2011 at 10:39pm
My Hubby and I started dating when we were in our teens. He actually found a basic book of Diabetes in our school library and read it shortly after we met. No other Guy that I had dated was that interested in learning about my Diabetes. I was impressed. He was with me the last day of my 3 day Coma. The Drs. said that I wasn't going to survive it, so my Parents let him into the ICU to stay with me. We were 19 y/o. I knew he was Mr. Right, for me. He still doesn't know all about the ins and outs of Diabetes but that's okay. He knows enough.. :)
Comment by Qayoom on December 15, 2010 at 9:00pm

With a lot of passion and so much desire...
The sweetest, that I very much like,
The words I more eagerly enjoy,
The ones that come from your lips, my love

Wish you all the best of Health My FRIENDS
Comment by David B. on August 8, 2010 at 11:15pm
Ms Kittyok, I would be hesitant to give you advice. Only you can walk a mile in your shoes. Welcome to Tu. Perhaps you could consider tutoring to supplement your teaching income. Some things you can deal with one day at a time. You are going to have to deal with other issues as a couple.
Comment by Billy on August 2, 2010 at 11:11pm
I would have to know you better to really give advice, but it sounds like you need to do more than wait for cooler weather because then another reason for him not to search may pop up.
Comment by mskittyok on August 2, 2010 at 10:08pm
Hi I am Pamela and both newly diagnosed with type 2 and a newlywed. I am finding stress makes my numbers go up, and we are experiencing alot of financial stress right now. I am a teacher who does not have a full time job because of cutbacks city wide-but I substitute regularly which brings in decent money, but my husband is unemployed and likes to play on the computer most of the day. He has looked for some jobs, but claims it is too hot outside to look for jobs any other places besides the internet..I am frustrated...MY job doesn't start until Aug 20....Any advice would be very welcomed.

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