This is my first post to this group and it is long-my apologies! I really need your feedback and advice on seeing a maternal fetal medical specialist or a regular OB. Here is the dilemma:
I am recently pregnant with my 3rd. With my previous pregnancies I saw a MFM doctor who handled my BS and OB. She was fabulous and I had great pregnancies-no other complications. After our 2nd we moved from a big city to a small town. The closest MFM doctor (and Endocrinologist) is 90 minutes away. I am really struggling with the decision on who to see for my OB care during this pregnancy. We are 13 hours away from family and I would feel really guilty asking any of our friends here to watch our other two (who are 4.5 and 2.5) for 4 hours so I could see the MFM doctor. My husband's job precludes him from watching our other 2 so I could make the drive as well. However, I am really worried about my care if I don't see a MFM doctor since it is all I've known. I currently only see my primary care doctor and a CDE for my diabetes (Type 1) and they are both pretty worthless. Again, this is due to the 90 minute drive to see an Endocrinolgist. With summer around the corner I could take my boys with me to every appointment (my husband could not come along-he is the head of a company and could never take that much time off). But, I would feel super guilty about it-I mean, what fun is a 3 hour car trip every 4, then 2, then every week?
What would you do? Has anyone only seen a regular OB for care during pregnancies? If you did, did you also have an Endocrinolgist as well? For all other moms-what decision would you make? Please be as honest as you can. I know you all are the only ones who understand all the added complexities, guilty, and worries of being diabetic and pregnant. I really appreciate any and all feedback!