a lot of folks who identify as L,G,B, T and/or Q talk about having pride in their identities. why is pride so important?
is pride the opposite of shame? is pride a way to deal with deep-seeded shame?
ive been thinking a lot about this lately cuz if im really honest with myself id have to admit that i feel shame a lot. and i think that my shame (or is it pride?) is what accounts for both my need to be really loud & in your face about my sexuality and also closeted to certain folks. weird, huh?
also, i feel a lot of shame when explaining my diabetes to people (you know, the whole "you did this to yourself" thing). i remember when i found out that diabetes was an auto-immune disease. my whole body let out an noticeable sigh of relief.
im sick of feeling ashamed. but somehow i dont trust pride as the answer. (ever been to a big city pride parade? its lots of people all excited that the corporations care about "us" and trying to prove how much "like straight people" we are).
does pride = assimilation?
if so, what is there to be proud of if we are all the same?