The Unknown in the Dating World
I recently started seeing a gentlemen who happens to be quite the health buff. Doubt this one has ever had a day worrying about the carbs he eats. I think for the first time I am attracted to him for that reason. Hmmmm.....
Either way, I have seen many online PWDs bring up the dating questions, the partner questions, even the sex questions.
I told him right away I was diabetic. For me personally it is important that someone know this. If you want to "take a chance to get to know me", well, know what you're getting into. I totally agree with the "burden" feeling. It is hard but it should not be. We PWDs or those with a chronic illness do not judge others, why should they judge us?
It takes work in a relationship. Any PWD works hard everyday to maintain their life. Most people do not have to consider the things we do day in and day out. How could we possibly fit into "their world"? Interesting because we do not ask that of them now do we? I simply ask, be open-minded enough to not question me. Ask questions, yes. But do not ever think you have the answer or know the way. Even my doctor doesn't.
Give us a chance. We have SO much to offer! We have learned SO much since we were diagnosed. We are who we are. Let it be, just be.
Either way, I have seen many online PWDs bring up the dating questions, the partner questions, even the sex questions.
I told him right away I was diabetic. For me personally it is important that someone know this. If you want to "take a chance to get to know me", well, know what you're getting into. I totally agree with the "burden" feeling. It is hard but it should not be. We PWDs or those with a chronic illness do not judge others, why should they judge us?
It takes work in a relationship. Any PWD works hard everyday to maintain their life. Most people do not have to consider the things we do day in and day out. How could we possibly fit into "their world"? Interesting because we do not ask that of them now do we? I simply ask, be open-minded enough to not question me. Ask questions, yes. But do not ever think you have the answer or know the way. Even my doctor doesn't.
Give us a chance. We have SO much to offer! We have learned SO much since we were diagnosed. We are who we are. Let it be, just be.
Tags: Dating
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Permalink Reply by Jesus Salcedo on -
Eloquently put!!!
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Permalink Reply by Brittany on -
Bravo! Well said. Though I have never dated, I think it would be pretty important to let the other person know that you have diabetes. I would try to have fun with it. People come and go but Diabetes doesn't. So they can either take it or leave it.
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Permalink Reply by CALpumper on -
Thank you to both of you.
It's hard enough to just be yourself, we don't need others around us expecting something different.
And yeah, take it or leave it!!! -
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Permalink Reply by Daniel on -
You go CalPumper, if he can't handle it, he's not worth it. But, give him a chance, maybe he can handle it. Don't jump to conclusions to fast. The good ones always come around. Good on ya.
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Permalink Reply by Eric on -
I totally agree that a relationship takes work....every relationship, even with family, does. To pretend that it shouldn't is unrealistic. Every person is different. Even if you're very much the same, some things are always going to be different for you. So live and let live and do your best to accept your partners differences.
Eric -
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