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Type 3 Diabetes

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Comment by Abk14 on October 22, 2014 at 9:46pm
Comment by Abk14 on October 21, 2014 at 4:44pm
EBW77 yes we definitely have had a talk about it many times, especially about what would happen if we had kids in this situation but the conversation is mostly coming from me and all he says is everything will be fine. I feel as though he is in a sort of denial stage of how serious these situations are because he's doesn't want or feel like he should have to deal with diabetes. Every once in a while he will have an emotional break down and litterally cry about how unfair it is that he has diabetes. Well I am a realist and I too have had my share of illness so I tell him at least they know what is wrong with you and have ways of controlling it, because doctors have yet to be able to diagnose me. I just try to get him to realize that there are worse situations in the world because he always seems so centered on himself, I love him but I do know that if he wants a family he needs to pull himself together.
Comment by EBW77 on October 21, 2014 at 2:08pm

Hi Abk14,

I have been thinking a lot about your post in this last week. I also have a long term SO who is Type 1. It sounds to me like your boyfriend is being extremely irresponsible. When a diabetic partner isn't taking care of himself, it definitely affects both people in the relationship. I think that can sometimes be lost on the diabetic person, as they are not realizing how it affects people around them.

When we were first dating, I told my SO that I would do what I could to support him, but if he wasn't going to take care of himself, I wasn't interested in dating him. I am fortunate. My boyfriend does a great job managing his diabetes and I know he wants to be there for me and to be responsible (and present) if we have children. Imagine if you had children and your boyfriend didn't want to test before driving them to school?

I don't know if you have had a chance to talk to him about how his diabetes is affecting you, but I hope you can.

Comment by KalebMommy on October 21, 2014 at 6:38am

My husband has been Type 1 for 11 years now and on July 9,2014 our life was changed upside down when our then 2 year old son was diagnosed as a Type1.

My life is so different now, I worry constantly about my son especially when i am working and he is in daycare. I always thought if one of our kids was diagnosed we would be prepared since my husband was already affected by this horrible condition, however we were not.

When he was first diagnose I fell apart and then went into straight protective mode. We are now 3 months into this new chapter and lifestyle with out kids, My son has a DexCom Meter and now uses a T:Slim Insulin Pump and i think both are amazing to help ease this.

I find myself being less strict with my son compared to our other children and I think he is taking advantage of it as most kids would. I am not sure how to be strict with him as i have this guilt and sadness for what he has to go through and how he must feel when his BS is either trending high or low. For example I have been sleeping with him every-night, He still has a binki at night and he is now 3 years old. I don' hold him to the same standard as my other children when it comes to misbehaving.

I also have a 5 year old daughter who sees this and has started acting out to get back the attention she has lost since her younger brother was diagnosed.. I feel lost as a parent right now, Like I can't seem to so anything right, Plus I am exhausted from lack of sleep every-night

Anyone else have these guilt feelings that are getting in the way or parenting? Any wisdom to share to try and help my family go back to "normal".....

Comment by Abk14 on October 20, 2014 at 2:36pm

Thanks, I am defiantly working on it

Comment by Madrileño on October 20, 2014 at 3:29am

Hi Abk14 - from everything I've seen that is a stressful demanding job. Hope you manage to handle all the different stresses and find some balance.

Comment by Abk14 on October 18, 2014 at 9:15am
Madrileno, a server is also called a restraunt waitress, I did that job for over 5 years and the doctors were just concerned that all of the running around and lifting heavy things would injure me more therefore they told me that I should not be a waitress anymore. I think that the only other stress is financial because I haven't been allowed to work for the past couple of months.
Comment by Madrileño on October 18, 2014 at 3:48am

By the way Abk14 - slightly off topic but what is a "server" and what does "serving" involve? Just curious. I am from the UK and I can't think of any job that has that name here. Is it a stressful role in itself that makes things harder in relation to your shared diabetic stresses?

Comment by Abk14 on October 15, 2014 at 10:20am

Thank you Madrileno, Yes we have also gone through our share of stresses, We just made our first move together about two months ago and within the first two weeks I ended up at the hospital and have been sick since then not able to work like I usually do as a server and being told that I should not serve anymore because of the stress it causes to my body. He has been out of wack since this summer but I didn't get frustrated until he had a low when I was in the emergency room being pumped with morphen and I had to try to pull myself together get up and go find a nurse to ask for juice and a meter because he didn't have his again, Its just constant with him, I feel like he expects me to always care for him but he isn't willing to take extra care for himself just incase I need him like he needs me. Then the whole cops thing happened and I think that was just the cherry on top and he still doesn't seem to get it.

Comment by Abk14 on October 15, 2014 at 10:09am

Thanks Linda G, Yeah by time I had gotten there the EMTs had already gotten him up to about 90 and told me that when they got there he was at 28, I know that when he gets low and comes back up that he usually doesn't remember but he was there long enough to get the picture and the road he had traveled on we had to go back through, therefor he could defiantly see the danger he and others were in. He actually had left his meter at the school he was teaching at that day. He has a bad habit of forgetting it and other things to secure that he is safe. He is also one of the T1 s that when his Bs gets low he still thinks he is fine, he retry much goes into denial and no they just told him to take care. It was definantly a crazy situation for me.


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