Hello, I just join Tudiabetes. My husband has had Type 1 diabetes for 19 years. The past few years have been really rough. He has had a lot of medical problems. He sugar is all over the place. His A1C is now 8.7. I only found this out because he is now seeing a dietician. She was saying about how high his A1Cs have been over the past two years. I was really mad at my husband because I feel he isn't trying to take care of himself anymore. He did so well until the past few years. But now he doesn't know when he is low, he isn't standing up for himself at the doctors and he has completely blocked our daughter (both adults) and me out. I understand that it can be normal to not know when you are going low, but he won't do anything to prevent it. I wanted him to get a CGM but the PA told him they are the experimental stage. I worry about him all the time. I will come home and he will be low and not know what he is doing. What happens when I don't get home in time and he is die? I get so mad at him because he just doesn't seem to care. I would think if he didn't care about himself, he would think about his two daughters and hopefully. I don't want to live without him. I want to grow with him. He won't talk to anyone else with diabetes, he never would. He feels like he is a freak because he has diabetes.
I feel bad that I get so frustrated with him. I know I can't make him do anything but I'm scared, our daughters are scared. What can I do to help him?? How do I get him to listen to me???? I feel overwhelmed so much of the times. I just don't know what to do.
Hi Andreina and every body else here.I am new to this group.I just read all the posts and felt every one is telling my story.I am mother of a T1D and wife of T2D. I lost my husband few years ago and find myself living every day in fear of loosing my daughter.It is indeed overwhelming.Over time i have also learnt that i have to take responsibility for my own needs and let my adult daughter learn to walk through her own challenges. I can support her but can not mother an adult all the time(being the D-Police)...very difficult though!