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Permalink Reply by Daniel Oliva, RRT RPFT AE-C on February 19, 2010 at 9:12pm

I am the victom being a type 3 from a defective antibiotic, Mood swings, anger, depression, and fear haunt me.
My other half attempts to understands, attempts to add facts and opinion and loves me.
I see a therapist once a month, and live on two types of antidepressents. I was posioned and the drug company got away with it! There was many factors that contributed to it all.
I am attempting to do things I always wanted to do. I started swimming lessions, I did my 1st push up and my 1st pull up. I am at the gym and liking the way it helps me stay focused and I celabrate the small victories! I do things now so that I look forward to have a better future. I can not change what happened but I can plan for the next day and the day after. If I don't plan now then when?? I ask myself this question to help stay active in my persuit to live well and do things I may have never done. Church also helps because God does help to carry the burden.
My love one becomes upset also but in an attempt to help me, their health has improved with being a team working together.
It is not easy, and it takes alot of work. Time is always ahead of us, so if not now...when?

Permalink Reply by Katie Zeller on February 20, 2010 at 12:35am

'Keep my mouth shut' is how I handle it. And, trust me, not an easy thing for me to do. My hubs had his pancreas removed a year ago so he went from nothing to Type 1 in a day. He deals with it pretty well, but then the high / low swings start which frustrate him - and he asks what I think he should do.... My tongue has to be at least 4 inches shorter from me biting it constantly, but it really does help. If I can just hold off the first comment for a few minutes, unitl I can say it more calmly and he can listen more calmly it helps a lot. I walk away a lot or am 'busy, just a second' when he asks something.
Probably not the suggestion you wanted, but it's all I've got. I'll be back to read other's ;-))
Good luck!

Permalink Reply by Ashley W on February 20, 2010 at 9:49am

Hi Cason,
Firstly I think it is great that your husband is trying hard to manage his diabetes better... that's no small thing! But those highs/lows, anger/frustrations are no fun ... I know! I think when my husband (t1 for 13 years now) gets moody, my first job is to figure out whether it truly is his numbers that are driving it, or whether it is something else... work stress, lack of sleep (we have two little ones), parenting frustrations, etc. When it is related to his diabetes, I tend to do what Katie said ... back off until he is back within the "window" of normal - either by supporting him through his low, or waiting until the insulin bolus kicks in and treats his high (usually the worse offender for mood). When he is within the window of normal numbers, we can truly deal with whatever it is that needs addressing, and I know (and can respond accordingly, be it good or bad!) that "it" is a true issue and not just a manifestation of his body chemistry being out of whack. Does that make sense?

I know it is hard, balancing the "what ifs" and "is its?" around your husband's diabetes on an ongoing basis - but hang in there! There are many of us in the same boat. :-)

Take care,
Ashley

Permalink Reply by krissijane on May 3, 2013 at 4:57pm

I know EXACTLY what you mean. I have been dealing with this for 7 years with my husband. it has gotten worse now that he is trying to fix the highs and lows!!
when it goes low he used to be goofy and drunk lie now he get mad and calls names... it isnt easy, he has broken things and oh boy..

Permalink Reply by Minou on May 5, 2013 at 12:42pm

I know this is an old thread. Does anyone have other ideas?

Permalink Reply by Holly on May 13, 2013 at 12:36pm

How about seeing a therapist. They may be able to help him and you deal with all of the mood swings. Sometimes it as simple as that. If he won't go what about going yourself. Maybe he isn't the only one feeling frustrated and helpless and you might need someone there to vent to as well. Sometimes we forget as care givers that we need help sometimes too!

Permalink Reply by Brooklyn on May 14, 2013 at 9:39pm

My husband was diagnosed with T1 9 months ago. The one thing that has truly helped us both was to attend a T1 support group. We are in our late 20's, and I think the rest of the group (maybe another dozen or so people) are in their 60's-80's. They are an incredible wealth of knowledge- one woman has lived with T1 for 63 years! There are spouses and siblings that attend as well. It is hard for me sometimes because I feel like this disease may affect my husband's body, but it affects my heart. I worry and stress and just want to do everything in my power to help him. But it teaches me balance, and to calm down, and let my husband handle things the way he chooses. And it teaches my husband to remember that this affects our whole family, and to be patient. We attend the group just once a month, and they arrange various speakers to come in and give information on depression, pumps, exercise, etc. It's been a great asset.