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How to Deal

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How do you handle the mood swings?

Started by Cason. Last reply by jimrich Sep 16, 2013. 9 Replies

What would it be a better name?

Started by Andreina Davila. Last reply by AnnaBme Sep 8, 2013. 1 Reply

New blog for Spouses of People with Type 1

Started by Ashley W. Last reply by gigi60 Aug 19, 2013. 6 Replies

"She's A Diabetic, And I'm Not"

Started by J.R. Woods. Last reply by LunchladyLiz Jun 26, 2013. 7 Replies

How to sleep at night?

Started by Gracey . Last reply by Holly May 13, 2013. 2 Replies

Parenting a college age T1D

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Support Resources?

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Hello :)

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New to all of this!

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How do you feel...?

Started by Ann. Last reply by Ashley W Aug 8, 2009. 2 Replies

Confused

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Third party praises

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Any ideas on the direction of the group?

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Helping out the folk(s)

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Comment by Madrileño on September 13, 2014 at 3:24am

Comment by Madrileño on September 13, 2014 at 3:24am

Thanks J.R. I'm going to keep inquiring about pumps and CGM and hope something turns up that makes life a bit more predictable and manageable. Glad you have been able to make some progress through the years.

Comment by J.R. Woods on September 12, 2014 at 11:11pm

Hey ShannonL and Madrileno,

My wife is T1 and has been for about 22 years now, and we've been married for 6 years and together 9. Needless to say she's got a stronger grasp on it than I do, but I've learned a lot as a T3. In regards to highs/lows I know she has dealt with various struggles, whether it be different types of insulin due to insurance and/or her own reaction to them. Finally about a 7 or 8 years ago she got an insulin pump which really changed things for her. It's not a cure all and she still has random high and low spells, but overall control got a lot better.

In regards to mood, there are definite changes when highs/ lows are involved and it can be hard to see it objectively as a spouse or loved one. Also, a few years ago my wife inquired about depression and anxiety related to her diabetes. Beyond the emotional aspect of dealing with diabetes, she found out that many T1's can suffer from various chemical imbalances in the brain that lead to depression and anxiety. Often these episodes can be pretty dark and we've had our share of hard times and bad arguments. Again, I think as a loved one it can be hard to see those moments objectively and not get upset alongside the person or feel hurt when they lash out for reasons unknown to you. She has tried a few medications that are designed to help repair the chemical imbalances, without needing to take them long-term. She sort of went back and worth with the meds and overall they did help, but she ultimately didn't like some of the side-effects and stopped. While not a cure-all my wife, post-meds, has had a strong improvement in the frequency of her dark days. Again, the hard part is discerning between the two-- bad depression days or legitimate issues to be addressed in the marriage/relationship -- when you're so close to it all.

Feel free to message me for more, but I didn't want to get too personal or long-winded here in the comments.

Comment by Madrileño on September 12, 2014 at 7:08pm

Not at this stage in the British health service - not, as far as I know though thanks for the suggestion. I have been considering it. However come the revolution after the independence vote, maybe :-) We're waiting with bated breath for a more affordable solution - maybe like this one in deverlopment

http://www.nytimes.com/2014/07/16/business/international/novartis-j...

Thanks again for the suggestion - it would solve so many problems.

Comment by Cason on September 12, 2014 at 4:15pm

Madrileno: Is it possible for your wife to get a CGM so she is aware of her lows earlier and perhaps while she is still of a mindset to treat her lows without resistance?

Comment by Madrileño on September 12, 2014 at 9:06am

Hi ShannonL - I've not long joined this group (see a few posts below) so I don't have any solutions but just want to sympathise with your situation. In my case my wife's personality changes when she's low. First of all she generally has no symptoms so doesn't know it's happening then when I notice slight changes in her behaviour or responses and suggest she might be low she will usually deny it, resist doing a test and often become highly obstructive to taking anything to bring her up again. This involves twisting and squirming to avoid me trying to give her a glucose drink then if I do get a mouthful into her instantly spitting it out. Naturally the clock is ticking during this process and every minute she refuses to take something she's going lower. Of course I don't want to wait until she's unconscious and give her glucagon. So it's a stuggle. Then when she has come up it's business as usual for her but I've still got all this adrenalin washing around and nowhere to put it. Those times when she's high she gets really annoyed and bad tempered with the reading but doesn't seem to see that it's the lows that are immediately dangerous and that other people have to deal with. So no suggestions but just to say you are not alone in having to deal with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde!

Comment by Shahrazad1001 on September 12, 2014 at 8:14am

It's taken me quite a while to introduce myself, but wanted to reach out and say hello, and that I look forward to connecting with people here.

I learned about TuDiabetes through work--last year I started doing communications and PR for an organization that focuses on research for type 1, and my husband has type 2. He was diagnosed 8 years ago, before we reconnected--we knew each other in high school, but didn't start dating until 20 years later--that in itself is a story to tell! :)

When he was diagnosed, he was living in Florida and all they did was prescribe metformin and never talked about how to manage diabetes, or how changing habits that may help, so he was living with BG levels well over 300 all day, every day, for several years before he moved up to New England with me 3 years ago. He found a new doctor and was upset about having to take insulin, but has since come to terms with it, and is living a much healthier lifestyle.

I signed up here just as he landed in the hospital with a massive blood clot in his heart. A stent was put in and he's made a great recovery, but is now on a ton of new meds--very frustrating for him, and he'll often say, "Look, I lost 80 lbs, I eat really healthy, and now I'm taking a turn for the worse! Why don't I just go back to eating junk all the time?" I know it's just venting, but still...he sometimes wavers between using that frustration as inspiration for better ends and giving up.

Generally, we've come a long way in communicating about his health and we're very supportive of each other, but the recent cardiovascular disease diagnosis was intensely scary. Because of my job, I know a lot about type 1, but need to learn more about living with type 2--and how to be as supportive as I can be, even when his patience for keeping up with it runs out.

Comment by ShannonL on September 12, 2014 at 7:47am
Hello Everyone, I happened upon this website. To be honest, my search for support is out of desperation. Desperation to have someone understand. After reading all of these entries, I feel a little less crazy. My boyfriend of 3 years has T1 and has for 13 years. I fell in love with the most loving, sweet and gentle man I have ever met. Loving a diabetic who is still angry about the diagnosis even after 13 years can be very scary. He has ups and downs. The first 2 years of our relationship, he was still using this old school Australian insulin and he was depressed alot of the time and had horrible highs and lows.
Last fall we went to a specialist here in the US and he was prescribed a much better combination of night time and fast acting insulin. The improvements were vast and I was so hopeful. It seems like from what I've read, many of you have loved ones who are suffering from low's. My boyfriend is so afraid of the lows that he many times rides too high and doesn't take a proactive approach to managing his blood sugar. He waits till hes high, 300-400 then injects to correct it. The problem with this is his mood during this high has adversely affected our relationship. It causes him to become argumentative and irrational and by the time I realize what is happening, we are both upset. I have tried to help him get this under control but he resents my attempts and gets very defensive. I don't know what to do. I must be saying the wrong things or saying them the wrong way. Does anyone have any suggestions for showing support to your loved ones in a way that they can accept?
Comment by Letty on September 11, 2014 at 3:23am
My husband has type 2 diabetes and I am so glad to be able to find this group where I can get support and help about something I know nothing about!
Comment by wendy on September 4, 2014 at 8:09am

My husband ,Type 2...My daughter type 1 and it is nice this group is here. I try to be there for them, they are always here for me.

 

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