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Started this discussion. Last reply by Cosumne Jan Sep 22, 2013. 50 Replies

The clinic I go to is pressuring me to have a colonoscopy simply because I am over 50 and "everyone does it". I'm worried not just about going low, but about the prep damaging my kidneys. 6 years ago…Continue

Tags: gastroenterologist, gastrointestinal, GI, colitis, colonoscopy

Liability issues with The Big Blue Test

Started this discussion. Last reply by acidrock23 Jul 10, 2013. 5 Replies

Just curious. What liability issues have others encountered in doing the Big Blue Test as a group in a public place and how were they resolved?Continue

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Physical Activity and Diabetes Management; presented by the American Diabetes Association and the National Diabetes Education Program at TuDiabetes homepage

November 13, 2014 from 10am to 11am
This event already occurred.  Enjoy the recording!This event was organized in collaboration with the American Diabetes Association and the National Diabetes Education Program.  Dr. Ronny A. Bell, PhD is Professor of Public Health Sciences (Department of Epidemiology and Prevention) at the Wake Forest School of Medicine in North Carolina, and Director of the Maya Angelou Center…See More
Nov 13, 2014
mary posted a status
"Logged my first Big Blue Test of the season. One hour and 48 minutes of ballet."
Nov 10, 2014
mary is attending Emily Coles's event

Master Chats: Sick Day Plan, Metabolism at TuDiabetes homepage

October 29, 2014 from 3:30pm to 4:30pm
This event already occurred.  Enjoy the recordings!Sick Day PlanMetabolism3:30 PT Heather Kanastab presents Sick Day PlanHeather studied Nutrition and Dietetics at Syracuse University and is currently pursuing a master's degree in Diabetes Education…See More
Oct 29, 2014
mary replied to Emily Coles's discussion 'Humana project: third question!'
"The most confusing part of being diagnosed with diabetes was the initial misdiagnosis. Because I was in my late-40s and had gone through a brief period of weight gain, my Primary assumed I must be Type 2. I was told to cut down on sugar and it was…"
Oct 9, 2014
mary and dgzee are now friends
Oct 5, 2014
mary replied to AngelaC's discussion 'Research on Fat Shaming'
"In the game, Boal says that the oppressor who was once oppressed soon learns that his role as oppressor is temporary; at any moment, he may become one of the oppressed once again. What I hear is the fear: fear of being victimized, of being lumped…"
Oct 5, 2014
mary replied to AngelaC's discussion 'Research on Fat Shaming'
"For one of the classes I'm taking, I've been reading a book by Augusto Boal, Games for Actors and Non-Actors. In his description of "the vampire of Strasbourg" he notes that when the oppressed becomes the oppressor "he…"
Oct 5, 2014
mary commented on Amy's group 'LADA Diabetics'
"Metformin helps with insulin resistance. Some who are 1.5 have insulin resistance, so it may help. Others with LADA are extremely sensitive to insulin (half a unit or a whole unit in the wrong direction can be the difference between being hypo- or…"
Aug 6, 2014
mary replied to Emily Coles's discussion 'Consensus Conference on glucose monitoring, patient input needed!'
"In the debate over cost vs care (Issue #3), several factors need to be considered in the calculation of total cost, beyond the cost of test strips and CGMs: cost of hospitalizations due to DKA and severe hypoglycemia cost of specialist care…"
Aug 3, 2014
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Live Interview with Dr. Denise Faustman, Director of Immunobiology Massachusetts General Hospital at TuDiabetes homepage

July 24, 2014 from 11am to 12pm
This event already occurred. Enjoy the recording!Denise L. Faustman, MD, PhD, Director of Immunobiology, Massachusetts General Hospital & Associate Professor of Medicine, Harvard Medical SchoolDenise Faustman, MD, PhD, is Director of the Immunobiology Laboratory at the Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH) and an Associate Professor of Medicine at Harvard Medical…See More
Jul 20, 2014
mary replied to MarinaTheBetes's discussion 'On the topic of burnout'
"What really leads to my burn out is doing everything right and having everything go wrong. I'm LADA, postmenopausal, hypothryroid, on Lantus twice daily and Novolog for meals. Count carbs scrupulously, wear a CGM and try to stay between the…"
Jul 7, 2014
mary replied to MarinaTheBetes's discussion 'On the topic of burnout'
"I agree with your distinguishing between "control" and "balance." Balance implies my life may be wobbly, but I haven't crashed yet. And I haven't. No ambulances; no hospitalizations; still above ground = doing…"
Jul 6, 2014
mary is attending Emily Coles's event

Live Interview with Marina Tsaplina, clown and puppeteer with diabetes at TuDiabetes homepage

July 10, 2014 from 1pm to 2pm
This event already occurred.  Enjoy the recording! Marina is the founder and catalyst of The Betes. She has lived with type 1 diabetes since she was 2 years old. When she was little she wanted to be an artist, a dancer, a teacher and a diabetes doctor. The Betes is her doing precisely that, with a twist: directing the power of…See More
Jul 3, 2014
mary might attend Emily Coles's event

Live interview with Gary Scheiner, CDE at TuDiabetes homepage

July 3, 2014 from 12pm to 1pm
This event already occurred.  Enjoy the recording! Bring your toughest diabetes questions!!  Gary is up for a challenge.Gary is a certified diabetes educator, insulin-pump and continuous glucose monitor user and trainer, and Masters-level exercise physiologist.  He serves on the advisory boards of several diabetes device manufacturers and pharmaceutical companies; volunteers for the…See More
Jul 3, 2014
mary replied to Laura S.'s discussion 'Reservoir Issue? Connector problems?' in the group Minimed Paradigm Insulin Pump Users
"If it works better, go for it. What do you have to lose?"
Jun 25, 2014
mary commented on Emily Coles's event 'Live Interview with Krista Maier: Nutrition Facts labeling'
"I've noticed that many packages now list in large type the grams of sugar. This is confusing. Individuals with and at risk for diabetes need to know how many grams of carbohydrate are in each serving. Grams of sugar do not equal grams of…"
Jun 24, 2014

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The PRIMARY person in my life who has diabetes has
Type 1 or type 1.5 (LADA) diabetes
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Help raise awareness. Support.
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March 4, 2004
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I have a blog on called Sweetest Lowdown. The play I am writing with Matt DeFour, The Sweet Lowdown, opens October 25 and runs through November 16 at Broom Street Theater in Madison, Wisconsin. He wrote the first one-act; I wrote the second. The Sweet Lowdown is funded in part by a grant from DHF Seeds.

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A Healthy Dose of Hedonism

Posted on May 16, 2014 at 9:59pm 0 Comments

First of all, I'm not talking about self-destruction: Short-term pleasure paid for by a lifetime of pain. This is hedonism as an antidote for nihilist Nietzscheism. Instead of "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger ( I always envision the speaker stepping over bodies)," this brand of hedonism preaches that pleasure makes life better while pain makes it worse. Makes sense. The following are my rules for a more hedonistic lifestyle:

Eat only tasty food. Don't eat the yucky…


Mantras and More

Posted on May 15, 2014 at 7:33pm 0 Comments

Caring for our mental health is now on the list of other care we diabetics receive. At each visit, I am asked how I'm coping. Most of the time I give the prescribed answer: "Just fine." I made the mistake of telling the truth once and was sent to a group meeting of other struggling diabetics. Perched on an easel near the large conference table was one of those giant tablets on which were written two columns of coping strategies: what we should use and what to avoid. Sort of like the "Do be a…


Acting the Part: Emotions and Diabetes

Posted on May 14, 2014 at 9:26am 2 Comments

Emotions and Diabetes. Not my favorite topic. Even before being diagnosed with diabetes, I was accused of being overly sensitive, overly emotional, chewing the scenery, being over the top.

Actors are a strange breed. We train ourselves to be hypersensitive to every nuance. What did you mean by that? What is really going on? We observe others, noticing slight variations in vocal inflection, stance, gesture. We observe ourselves. Where is my wrist, my foot, my shoulder? On this word,…


Blood Tango

Posted on May 13, 2014 at 4:42pm 1 Comment

Blood Tango


Mary Fairweather Dexter

A daring dance we do

A dance of blood and death

Sharp steel piercing flesh

Red blossoms from fingertips

The hollow of my arm

The curve of my thigh

"You're not so sweet tonight."

Death beckons


And with memories

Of iron lace balconies

Pulsating jazz

Throbbing tango

I drink

Sweetness running down my throat

To live once…


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At 4:59pm on May 13, 2014, shoshana27 said…

nice to meet you Mary

At 12:37pm on March 2, 2014, rick the "Blogabetic" said…

Mary, I loved the play, thank you for writing it.


At 6:15pm on March 11, 2011, Schmutz said…
Hey Mary...saw your post in the Cheeseheads room! You ask about anyone doing the Tour de Cure in Madison. You may want to check with Erin Ball, she's a member on TUD and is I believe on the Team Type I for cycling. You should be able to search her under members and you ask if she's doing it. She's somewhere in WI..Good Luck!
At 3:22pm on January 17, 2011, CaKats said…
Good luck on the audition!!! Let me know how it turns out.... :)
At 11:32pm on October 27, 2010, Kristin said…
Welcome to TuDiabetes Mary! Glad that you found our community!

Check out this discussion and add your years :)
At 5:09pm on October 26, 2010, catlover said…
Hi mary - Welcome to TuD. We hope you like it here.
At 3:49pm on October 25, 2010, Donna H said…
Welcome to TuDiabetes! Check out some of the groups on the site. It is a great way to get to know the community.
At 2:16pm on October 25, 2010, Marie B said…
hi Mary, welcome! let me know if I can answer any questions about the community. congrats on getting featured!
At 11:56am on October 25, 2010, Doris D said…
Here's a link to help our new member's get to know more "About Us"
Also please put up a picture of you (or somethimg relaied to you) for our Forum.



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