Valentine's day 2015
We are a few days away from Valentine’s Day and it is time to be bombarded by compatibility tests, restaurant reservations, flower orders and candy isles at drug stores. Does anyone else get a little blue when you go into a small store and see row upon row of packaged candy ready to be sold. Just behind it was candy for Easter uuugh. Every time I see this candy I flash back to 1975, the first year after diagnosis and the simple card I received form my mother on Valentine’s Day. This compared to the normal candies I received each year before that.
Not that I needed or even wanted the candy, but it was the stark and immediate reminder that something very different had happened. Suddenly having diabetes changed even the gifts I received. It was something I will never forget; in some ways Valentine’s Day 1975 defined my future life as one of deprivation as opposed to the previous 16 which were abundant (ok I was an only child). It is true Valentine’s Day has never been as nice since that day. In fact I no longer see holidays as fun or abundant, I see them as restrictive and some years bleak.
Like most of us in these situations I cope. I stay away from the candy isle; I try to focus on fun of others instead of the hurt I feel and most important I try to focus on my wife. Using these strategies always gets me through and like I said, I don’t need the candy.
Valentine’s Day makes me remember how many people with diabetes struggle with finding a partner. Sheryl and I have been married for 37 years. So I will admit any apprehension over dating has long passed. Unfortunately many participants in the Diabetic and Rheumatoid Arthritis communities struggle with the question of when to tell a perspective. I believe you can read the comments at this link:…