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Comment by SheyFey on January 22, 2009 at 10:05am

I always hid my diabetes until I started REALLY dating a guy. Now that I have the pump, I am so proud of myself that I have even told everyone at work I am a Diabetic. Just answering their questions about Type I is helping me become more comfortable with the condition.

My boyfriend has know I have diabetes since the day I met him. He is the most understanding person I have ever met with regards to my condition. He doesn't nag, question my decisions, or in any way remind me that I have diabetes. He trusts that I will take care of myself but is glad to know that if something happens to me, I trust him to help out.

If your boyfriend doesn't accept the diabetes, he is not the right man for you!

Comment by Lois La Rose on January 22, 2009 at 9:23am

Revvy:

My advice to you without looking at the other posts is to become comfortable with your diabetes. If you are comfortable with it, then he will be ... when you let him know. Treat it as a matter of fact (which it is) and he won't make too big a deal of it. If he notices, then you act surprised that he did notice it before. Not playacting on a "Oscar" level, but it'll give you a chance to accept with nonchalance what is a part of you.

Remember, if you accept it with nonchalance, then he will too. Try to hide it or cover it up, then he will sense there is something wrong with it. Then he will be looking for a way out. Unless he's an abnormally sensitive and accepting kind!! Remember, hiding something is often considered lying about something. Lying about something is often taken as being wrong.

Armchair psychology ... here I come!!

Lois La Rose
Milwaukee, WI

Comment by Jaclyn on January 22, 2009 at 7:02am

When I was dating in college, it as always one of the first things I told everyone. So I guess they'd usually know before we even went on a first date! Heh. That said, I've never had any guy take issue with it. Mostly they were curious and found it interesting. A surprising number of them actually knew someone, somewhere who had type 1, so they were familiar with it to some degree.

Good luck! ^__^

Comment by Preta on January 22, 2009 at 6:40am

I know when I would go on dates, I would just go about my business like he knew. He would ask "what are you doing? What's that?" and I would tell him "i'm diabetic". Then the questions would come, but as annoying as it is to answer them for the 1 millionth time, you have to.

If he leaves you because of that then he is not worth your effort. I know, I know it's hard to hear and you feel hurt because you invest so much...but in the end you know it's true.

You have to tell him, what if you have a low and you need help. It is best to inform the people you are going to spend a lot of time with.

I came straight out and told my bf now, I didn't play my previous game as stated above. And it was a good thing I did, because a few weeks into us dating I had such a severe low at his apartment. I was crying, yelling, and refusing to have anything. He was patient and got me around.

The only time I never told a guy is when I knew I wouldn't be seeing him again. It won't be so bad, don't worry just do it. 8)

Comment by Tracy on January 22, 2009 at 2:06am

Ah just tell him, most people these days know SOMETHING about diabetes. When I started dating my boyfriend (4 years ago), at first I didn't mention it. I always had before so I dont know why I didnt that time. But then once I had a sugar low and oops I had to tell him. He was confused about why I hadnt mentioned it, laughed and got me some juice. I think as long as you dont make a huge deal out of it he wont either. Maybe youll even find that 4 years later you're telling a similar story to mine ;)

Comment by Lalita on January 21, 2009 at 9:17pm

Hi there :)

I think you should be honest and just tell the guy :) Just like that I have diabetes and is a big part of my life, I'm sure you won't scare him but he would be curious and ask you a lot of questions. Don't hide it but don't make it a big part or stress about it, just talk to him and explain. I remember when I had to tell my boyfriend we started dating and I only ate salads he use to call me a salad freak and i was like yeah, yeah... And one day he was like, mind me asking why you use Splanda? I was like: I have diabetes and he was like really? I was like yeah kind of afraid and he was like so that is why you eat a lot of veggies and then he just asked me if it was hard and stuff just be confortable and trust your self! :) Good luck!