Well, today was one, just like any other; that is until I got home....

My son calls me at 2:30 in the afternoon after getting home from school, his blood sugar is 55, so I ask him to have a juice and call me in 10 minutes. 10 minutes later, he calls me and says, "I'm 82 now dad" so I say ok and to have his mom call me when she gets home if she needs anything. Fast forward to 6:30 pm. My wife gets home with my youngest son from soccer practice. Youngest one goes upstairs to use the bathroom and he announces "Why is there a popcicle wrapper in the toilet?" Wife asks my oldest (type 1) about it, he denies any knowledge of how it got there. Mind you he had been home alone since 5:00pm when my wife left for soccer practice. This causes a huge eruption. Oldest son goes down to check his blood before dinner, he's 432! World War 3 just started in our house. Wife is upset, I'm upset, son denies having anything other than a juice to correct his low; oh, and a granola bar which he did bolus for. So my question, can a 25 carb juice make you jump to 432 over the course of 2 hours? I think not! So we start looking around more, it appears as though some of my younger son's chocolate bar was missing as well. Before anyone starts to assume, we let both boys have small treats from time to time, nothing major, a fudgecicle here, maybe a candy bar there. No preferential treatment for the youngest. Oh I forgot. This morning when I returned from the gym, I put my protein shake on the island and went up stairst to get ready for work. It was 3/4 full. I came down and noticed it was 1/2 full. "Who drank some of my shake?" I ask. Denial. WTF????? I don't know if this is normal 12 year old behavior but boy it set us off tonight. We try to be understanding and supportive, but we cannot tollerate lying to our face! That and this just started today! We tried to give him a chance to come clean, tell the truth, and we would be fine with that; then coach on what would have been a better choice.

I read all the time of people who wish they would have taken better care of their condition; hell I have a friend that is waiting for kidneys and is on dialysis! I have another friend that is doing ok with his type1 but wishes he had done better. I know, I just know, that these indulgences are causing damage. I just don't know how much. I don't want to completely lock out any special treats, snacks, or his favorite cereal, but if he sneaks and then lies. I know he has a crap load to deal with, between his disease, moving into teenage years, school homework, and then the a-holes that he has to deal with at school. Sometimes I just wish I could put him in a bubble and protect him, but how would that help? I wish that the USFDA would accept the Islet transplants like Canada does. I wish someone would find a cure. I wish I had type 1 and he didn't. If I could make a wish, thats what I would wish for; strike that. I would wish for a cure and would give it to everyone with this disease for free.

God bless you all dealing with this daily struggle.

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Comment by Jen on October 19, 2011 at 10:46pm
I don't think it's that abnormal for kids/teenagers to "cheat" with diabetes. I used to do it, although when I was younger I didn't have the option of bolusing. Doe your son know he's allowed anything he wants as long as he boluses for it? Maybe telling him that would help, if he's just feeling rebellious.

Also, a 25g juice box can't make blood sugar skyrocket that much, BUT a rebound might be able to. I would try talking to your son and making sure he knows it's okay if he "cheats" as long as he boluses for whatever he's eating, and offer to count the carbohydrates for him (or help him), that's a lot of responsibility for a 12-year-old.

Also, the islet cell transplants are only experimental here in Canada and there are really tough guidelines to get them (basically diabetes has to be endangering your life with severe lows and/or complications), plus of course entails the use of anti-rejection drugs which are themselves nasty, so it's not something really available to anyone yet. :)
Comment by gordonmcds on October 20, 2011 at 7:16am
Hi Jen,

Thanks for your reply.

I was unaware of the need for the anti-regection drugs, that changes things a lot. The government does understand that diabetes is endangering every diabetics life, right? Just uspsets me when restrictions are put on patients because of money under the guise of "safety".

Back to my son. We are very supportive of him eating what he wants, within reason, when he wants as long as he boluses. We never say no, as long as he checks his blood and he is in a good range (below 180). There-in lies the problem. If he checks and he is high, he will still eat. He will bolus for the carbs but then start eating immediately, even though we have coached him numerous times to wait ten minutes, then have the food.

We don't care if he sneaks as long as he checks and boluses accurately. Regarding counting carbs, he is an ace at that and does a great job. We don't want to be too punitive as long as he is honest and tells us the truth so the discussion can end and we all can go on with our lives, peacefully.

I hope you have a wonderful day.

Gordon
Comment by Sophia'smommyLori on October 20, 2011 at 12:42pm
My daughter and I wish your wishes too :)

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