Until I was 17, I was a total tomboy. I didn't like girly things like dresses, high heels, playing with dolls, pink clothes, lipstick, nail polish and playing with other girls; instead I liked video games, playing sports with boys, watching sports events and even fighting with boys. I mean wrestling and slugging it out like a boy. I came home a few times with a black eye or bloody nose. The kids I hung out with was a mixed group, I always sided with the boys and dressed in boyish style clothes. If they played touch football on the beach, I was right in the middle. If it wasn't for my long hair, small Asian boobs and the fact that I had to squat to pee; I could have been taken for a boy.

Was I like that because I am diabetic? I'm the only diabetic in my family. My mother and 2 sisters are as feminine as they come. My sisters rooms have all the girly things, ruffled bed covers, dolls sitting on the bed and shelves and a closet full of pink dresses and skirts. Their rooms smelled like perfume, mine smelled like sweat socks. The only time I ever got dressed up in girly clothes was the few high school dances I went to. Then my oldest sister had to make me up. This was no easy task because I never used makeup and normally my hair was a tangled mess. I can only remember wearing high heels once, then I almost broke my ankle.

I have outgrown most of the tomboy image. I still don't like to wear girly clothes, I sometimes do when I go on dates but if it is an outdoor thing I still wear tees and jeans. I do like to dance but my partners have said I always like to lead. Romance leaves me cold, I would rather watch a sporting event than make out in the back seat. I try to act girly and feminine on dates but I'm usually just faking it.

Because I am the only one in my family that is like this, I can't help but think it is diabetes related. I was brought up the same as my siblings except I had to go to private school for 4 years because of my diabetes.

Don't think I'm a closet lesbian, nothing could be further from the truth. I have nothing against lesbians, their preference is their business; but I want to marry someday and have children and I would rather be with guys than girls. I don't know if I will ever find a guy that meets my expectations or that will put up with my strange ways. I enjoy dating and being with guys, as long as things don't start getting too romantic, a little romantic is OK. I guess you could call me a closet tomboy and I'll probably never change.

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Comment by Bradford on June 30, 2010 at 12:50pm
Chisaki I highly doubt that the diabetes caused the tom-boy attitude...although it's funny to think that two would be related!
I think what you grow up liking and being interested in is more nuture than nature, but I'm sure there is probably a study out there somewhere that would disagree w/ that ;-)
I would take pride in the fact that you're not a "cookie-cutter molded" person--you are a unique individual, and that's what makes you great! So just keep doing what you're doing, and you'll find someone out there that doesn't want the girly-girl...
Comment by chisaki on June 30, 2010 at 1:14pm
If not diabetes related, why am I the only one in my family that is like that. Other females in my family are as feminine and girly as they come. I am the only tomboy and the only diabetic. Because diabetes is with me all the time I tend to blame every unexplainable malady on diabetes.
Comment by Mario on June 30, 2010 at 1:17pm
In my opinion, if you are "tomboy" and it is a part of you, you don't have to try to be someone else. One day, you'll meet someone that love the other you try to be instead of the one you really are. Be yourself is the best advice I can give to you. Here, we all love Chisaki, not Chisaki 2.0 ;-)
Comment by chisaki on June 30, 2010 at 1:41pm
I get asked out on dates a lot. Most of the guys ask me out because they think there is a possibility of getting lucky. If I started dressing and acting like a tomboy, they wouldn't ask me out any more. That would make my life even more boring than it already is.
Comment by KimKat on June 30, 2010 at 2:51pm
I don't think this has anything to "having" with D. You might have more testertone in you perhaps.But just being different to start with could cause this. But, to throw a little psychology in there, maybe it is because you knew were different from your girlie sisters because you had D and they didn't, that perhaps this situation just helped you evolve to be different. There are lots of things that can do this. Just knowing you were different from you sisters made you want to be more so in a way. Nothing wrong with that. I hate cookie-cutter people. What else could be more boring? I am totally different from my family - although D does run in my family and some of my cousins around my age also have it - I still the different one - they are all overweight and fat - I am toothpick Diabetic. :)

I would be proud of being different. I am and I love it. Too bad if the others don't like it. Guys mostly hit me up too because of what I look like - alot of times when they find out how "unique" I am, they don't want that. I am not a tomboy but I am very opininated, a vegan, an atheist, feminist - ha! well, that isn't your normal everyday girl. That is why I look for guys who are unique themselves. The other guys bore the hell out of me anyhow. The boring guys often want boring girls anyhow.

There are plenty of the guys out there that will love that you can take them on the football field or that you will hang out in front of tube and watch a game with them! I hate sports so you won't catch me doing that - guys don't always like that about me. You look very pretty in your picture - I am sure you will have no trouble finding cute guys and will love you! :)
Comment by PaulR on June 30, 2010 at 5:09pm
Chisaki, I have a pair of identical twin cousins. They were so look-alike they used to swap boyfriends when they were dating, and the poor fellas never knew the difference for weeks. Even their own mother had trouble visually telling them apart. But I could, because one was tomboyish and the other was girlish in the games they liked to play. That's the only way I could describe it. They don't have D. but I mention them because even though they were genetically identical, they still had completely individual personalities. So individual that one got married and had 5 kids, the other joined a convent and became a nun for a while, but is still unmarried and never had kids. So having a different personality to your siblings is not a genetic trait or diabetes disorder, but a simple natural variation of the true individuality that every person has from everyone else. So just accept your individuality for what it is, an entirely natural gift that makes you truly unique among humankind, like everybody else!!
Comment by Domo! on June 30, 2010 at 5:50pm
I think I'm still a tomboy, I don't own makeup, high heels, or any dress clothes! Lol, my husband and I play video games and watch action movies. But I do love bath and body works and Ill dress my chihuahuas in whatever keeps them warm ( poor link, but hey Zelda looks stylin in blue). Diabetes is diskettes, like having brown hair or blue eyes. Time to watch prison break!
Comment by Muragaki on June 30, 2010 at 6:58pm
Begs a question: If diabetes were responsible for your tomboy characteristics, why wouldn't diabetes cause males to be effeminate?

Nevertheless, consider the following. Approximately ten percent of the general population is GLBT (gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender). Type 1 diabetics make up approximately five to ten percent of the general population. The U.S. Census Bureau's population clock is currently ticking upwards from 309 million. That means there are one and a-half to three million people in the U.S. who are GLBT diabetics -- and I [personally] know just one... (As I've written here before, diabetes is for me just one more layer of marginalization.)

You are who you are, Chisaki. And we like you just fine.
Comment by PaulR on June 30, 2010 at 7:06pm
Actually diabetes sometimes *does* cause males to have problems in the masculinity department. So far I'm good, but it's something the medicos say to watch out for (for men).
Comment by Muragaki on June 30, 2010 at 7:17pm
Paul -- seriously? I guess I hadn't heard (when there's no need to know...).

Is it risking Too Much Information to ask the nature of the problems?


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