I used to think I was pretty cute and fun and a great date. And then I got diagnosed at 24. I lost some of my self-confidence for awhile because I thought who would want to deal with someone so high maintenance?? I struggle to deal with myself some days and would not want object someone I care about to this stuff.
Well I finally gained my confidence back and had a great boyfriend last summer. He was there for me through all the trying times of getting adjusted to my insulin pump. And then we broke up, for reasons not related to my diabetes. He was so great and my pump was not an issue when I decided to dive back into the dating pool. And I have discovered it is an issue, a big issue. I have had guys get disgusted over the mere thought of the pump. One even told me he thought I was cute, but the pump just completed turned him off. On our first (and only) date, he asked me if I would consider going back to shots. Um no thanks!
I don't want to hide such an essential part of my life, but how soon is too soon to tell someone? After the above disastrous date, my mom suggested I wait to tell future dates about my diabetes. I thought giving guys a head's up was a courtesy, but it seems more like a turn off? So should I hide my pump and test in the bathroom? I feel like a fraud if I don't tell people about, but I also don't want turn guys off?
It's hard enough to date in this world without having these additional worries. I am just not sure what to do!