December 17, 2013....I first published this a year or so ago, I think. Thought I'd bring it back before I move on.....
Wolves mate for life. When they come of age to form a new pack, they become lone wolves until they find a potential mate. Part of their behavior at this point is called Parallel Walking.
I think of it as "hi-do-you-think-we-might-get-along-for-a-long-time-and-make-our-own-community?" Remember, they are not from the same family. Perhaps even from far-flung territories. I first read of this behavior in a beautiful book of essays about the natural world by the Native American poet/essayist/novelist, Linda Hogan. It resonated and stuck with me. Humans who were rehabilitating wounded, abused wolves, or abandoned litters, would engage in this behavior with the wolves to help them re-connect with their organic selves again.
I have been thinking about it lately in the face of some needlessly heated debates here on TuD. Debates are great. But some are "Needlessly Heated" because of dominance games and egos that get in the way of humane connection. One may think that it is necessary to be "right" and to have "the last word". But life goes on and most of us are seldom all right or all wrong. Sometimes we need to let go of ourselves. In the words of my beloved sister: "It is not a requirement of life to have an opinion about Everything."
What is required is a deep breath, and a moment of silence in which to let go of one's ego---just let it melt away. And then to rise out of that goo with an open-heart that can Parallel Walk with a fellow Diabetic who really is on the same path—the path that wants to Live.
You let that ego melt away for a bit and fall into a Parallel Walk with the person you consider out of reach. Reach across the Common Path Toward Living Well that you are on and touch hands and hearts for just a moment. Because here at TuD, we are All on the same path. And we are all committed to this special D family.
It's not really as difficult as it might seem. For one thing, once you've done it a few times, you feel better, more connected to all of humanity. For ultimately, it is the the Human Path about feeling love and hate, joy and sorrow, delight and despair….
Blessings on us all…Judith in Portland