December 17, 2013....I first published this a year or so ago, I think. Thought I'd bring it back before I move on.....

Wolves mate for life. When they come of age to form a new pack, they become lone wolves until they find a potential mate. Part of their behavior at this point is called Parallel Walking.

I think of it as "hi-do-you-think-we-might-get-along-for-a-long-time-and-make-our-own-community?" Remember, they are not from the same family. Perhaps even from far-flung territories. I first read of this behavior in a beautiful book of essays about the natural world by the Native American poet/essayist/novelist, Linda Hogan. It resonated and stuck with me. Humans who were rehabilitating wounded, abused wolves, or abandoned litters, would engage in this behavior with the wolves to help them re-connect with their organic selves again.

I have been thinking about it lately in the face of some needlessly heated debates here on TuD. Debates are great. But some are "Needlessly Heated" because of dominance games and egos that get in the way of humane connection. One may think that it is necessary to be "right" and to have "the last word". But life goes on and most of us are seldom all right or all wrong. Sometimes we need to let go of ourselves. In the words of my beloved sister: "It is not a requirement of life to have an opinion about Everything."

What is required is a deep breath, and a moment of silence in which to let go of one's ego---just let it melt away. And then to rise out of that goo with an open-heart that can Parallel Walk with a fellow Diabetic who really is on the same path—the path that wants to Live.

You let that ego melt away for a bit and fall into a Parallel Walk with the person you consider out of reach. Reach across the Common Path Toward Living Well that you are on and touch hands and hearts for just a moment. Because here at TuD, we are All on the same path. And we are all committed to this special D family.

It's not really as difficult as it might seem. For one thing, once you've done it a few times, you feel better, more connected to all of humanity. For ultimately, it is the the Human Path about feeling love and hate, joy and sorrow, delight and despair….

Blessings on us all…Judith in Portland

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Comment by shoshana27 on December 18, 2013 at 1:43am

judith i remember reading your blog last time & enjoying it a lot.
i love tudiabetes for the same reason.
it brings us PWD together to learn & teach & share & not feel alone

Comment by Pastelpainter on December 18, 2013 at 2:38pm

Yes, I see, here on TuD we ARE parallel walking, all of us towards one goal, LIFE.
Thank you Judith.

Comment by rick phillips on December 18, 2013 at 7:48pm

Judith i have known about the term parallel walking for many years. I am so happy with the way you have introduced it to us. I adore the concept and you applied it wonderfully for our web site. Thank you so much a perfect metaphor reported perfectly.

Thank you so much

Comment by Emily Coles on December 20, 2013 at 6:10pm

I LOVE this piece! And I loved it last year, too :)  Thanks for sharing it again.

But what do you mean by "Thought I'd bring it back before I move on....." dear Judith?

Comment by Judith in Portland on December 20, 2013 at 9:27pm

Not to worry Friend Emily---I just mean I have several new blogs percolating. I still intend to re-post my journal of caring for my mother because TuD was with me the whole way. And also my annual July 22nd post about losing Huck......

Comment by nel on December 22, 2013 at 10:57pm

PS loving you as Judith /Elizabeth ...and I stay away from heated debates on TuD ...because I am at loss for words the kitchen table is a different environment ...ask Hubby LOL


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