"Supporters"

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Comment by meredith on November 11, 2009 at 2:42pm

i totally agree with your blog and understand how you feel! it's really easy to explain to someone that we know what we're doing, but that doesn't mean they will react how you want them to or even understand you ... some people just think they know what they are talking about and don't accept that they might be wrong or not know everything!

Comment by Jessica on November 11, 2009 at 1:38pm

Really....family memebers don't bother me that much. I know they just care. Except the uncle in law...thats annoying. But it's co-workers. My boss is a diabetic, so I leave him alone mostly. But my other co-workers will come to me and be like "should he be drinking that white mocha? He's always drinking white mochas!" So what!! Let the man drink a white mocha if that's what he wants to do. It is NONE of my business to tell him not too. And I'm sure he has it covered. He knows I care in other ways. He mentioned he was looking for a new endo so I gave him mine's number. I'm sure he has enough FP, he doesn't need it from me.

Comment by Jessica on November 11, 2009 at 1:34pm

Rebecca you are awesome! I might try that. hehehe. :)

Comment by Rebecca Olson on November 11, 2009 at 1:26pm

I get where you are comming from. Having people scrutinize and comment is such an outward reminder of what we deal with at all times, and especially when it comes across as if we aren't thinking of it ourselves.
Maybe we should all just start dialoging our thought process aloud around others. Like, "I'm about to have a cookie because I had a low-carb lunch and I've already estimated it has about 25 g carbs and I've given myself a little bolus for it." Or, "I'm testing my bg because I feel a little woozy and I'm not sure if I'm low after that walk from the train or if I'm a little too high becuase I'm PMSing. Oh look, I'm at 69, which means I'm low and I need to eat something with sugar in it, like that cookie over there . . . "
Maybe if everyone could hear how much thought we put into it at almost every moment of every day, they'd back off.
Or maybe they'd just take it as an open invitation to join in. :)

Comment by Heather Nicole on November 10, 2009 at 9:52pm

i def agree with this blog. I have so many poeple who don't know anything about me, just a friend of the family telling me how i need to eat, and that i cant have a beer. Or just constantly on me about something. My dad who has been one of my biggest supporters in the positive way sometimes does the " you cant eat that" about a cookie as wel, or regular ice cream.. but with the ice cream i come back with the fact that sugar free actually ends up being worse for you than a tiny bowl of ice cream. Its very hard and annoying, ive only been diabetic for a year and a half now, i still dont know much about everything but enough to know that i am taking care of myself. But then again there ar ethe good supporters the ones that sit back and know you know what your doing, and help you as well:)..

Comment by JeffC on November 10, 2009 at 5:34pm

My wife can sometimes fall into the GLP category, but never the FP because I'm very regimented in my diet. She sometimes comments on diabetics she sees who eat high sugar foods.

On the GLP... she's trying to understand and I stopped being annoyed when I realized that my diabetes is largely invisible to her except for the occasional number that I mention. Sort of like if you were a passenger in a car blindfolded... you'd ask a whole lot more questions than if you could see where the driver was going.

Lately, I've noticed that as I give her more information and she can connect the dots and see the patterns she doesn't bug me... instead I often get a comment of "oh, that's good" when it's dead on my targets. And I think that's very important... we need to convert the GLP and FP to the side of constructive encouragement replacing criticism.

However, I do know that there are some people that you can't convert or convince... and for those, if they're not immediate family, I'd say hide the glucose meter.

Comment by Cassie Kile on November 10, 2009 at 5:23pm

Well I totally get your blog :) And enjoyed reading it. I work with a guy who is a member of the food police but I would never call him a "supporter" :) He is also diabetic and, like your husbands uncle, doesn't even attempt to take care of it. He's a terribly negative person and thinks he knows everything so for him I guess it's fun to be a jerk and criticize what I do! It's annoying when you're a person who really works hard to take care of your diabetes and someone who doesn't even attempt to take care of theirs wants to judge you.

I told my g/f very early in our relationship that if I want her to know my BG I'll tell her! We've been together 2 1/2 years and sometimes she'll look and go "Oops! Sorry! I'm not supposed to look!" :) But usually she respects my wishes. People at work are another story. And it's harder for me to tell them to bug off for some reason. Hmmm. Maybe I need to be more brave!

Comment by Mark on November 10, 2009 at 4:53pm

Yes, you are correct Jessica. Forgive me for being so thoughtless and short sighted. I didn't delve much deeper into your blog after I read the second sentence "There are a few types of "supporters" out there. And most are annoying." I still do not get the point of your blog. Maybe I do..." I'm really not a negative person, I just use this as kind of a way to vent."
Just an opinion from me, don't ever be embarrassed about a high GL. Good day.












Never be embarrassed with the occasional high GL.

Comment by Marie B on November 10, 2009 at 12:54pm

Jessica, I totally understand, because my mother is a card-carrying member of the diabetes police. She never completely got it when I was a kid, and now that my dad's had type 2 for a while, she doesn't get type 2 either. oh, well, I guess that's another story. The thing is, you can try to educate some people, but others are just not going to "get it" no matter how hard you try. Thank God here at TuDiabetes, there are many, many, kind, supportive, intelligent, friendly, and loving souls who really DO get it, and are willing to put their virtual arms around you when you need a hug.

I just LOVE this video by member Mike Lawson - here - called The Diabetes Police. It's a light-hearted look at the various kinds of policemen out there. hey, how did your hair turn out?

Comment by Jessica on November 10, 2009 at 12:39pm

Mark...you clearly didn't get the point of this blog.

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