ok... so.
i see that all siblings fight. its true, me and my brother fight all the time...but what i realize is that sometimes with another sibling in the house (especially younger ones) it can be a little overwhelming to the sibling to see the diabetic sibling getting ALL the attention. when a kid is first diagnosed, the parents tend to worry a lot and want everything to be in order and under perfect control. and the parents start to focus on that most of the time and work...so they dont really have time to sit and actually PLAY and INTERACT with the other sibling. and most of the time the other sibling gets jealous (its normal. all the atention is focused on the diabetic) and starts to act up.
my brother got very jealous because my mom was always focused on... if i was feeling right,my doctor appointments,what time i had to do my shot,my snacks,counting my carbs,etc. and my dad worked a lot. trying to get insurance,and focusing on me. also my dad was very tired most of the time. he was very stressed with all the work and situation we were all in. and in that year that i got diagnosed a lot of other things were going on.. my brother was dealing with a bad case of asthma, our house had mold in it, we had to move,me catching up with school work,also that year we were having financial problems. so a lot was going on. it was very stressful to everyone. so to be the sibling of a diabetic is hard... the diabetic may have to do the shots...but the sibling can be worried an maybe jealous of the attention... well see ya!

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Comment by Jacob's mom on July 13, 2014 at 4:48am

hey there, I am not sure how old you are but that is very compassionate to see the world through your brothers eyes, did you share this insight with your parents?? I can see this happening in my family to some extent but have tried hard to make my younger nonD son feel special and included. Jacob was 10 and mason was 8 when Jacob wad diag. Masons first words when we got home from the hospital was can Jacob still have choc chip pancakes? too cute. He is a pretty empathetic boy and I think he understands but sometimes feels slighted, but in an mature way sees this as normal in our family he knows he is blessed to have a healthy pancreas. Also because of the bond that Jacob and I have, jacob knows I have his D back but sometimes wishes I would get off it!! he is 15. anyway because of his D or his innate awesome and caring personality Jacob and I are very close. So thanks for the input from the teens perspective, I will make my Mason feel loved today! I hope things are going better with you and within your family. It sure can put a strain, but I feel gets better with times, until there is a horrible D day. but don't we all have horrible days in general at times and have to just move on? hugs, Amy

Comment by amira colene rose on July 13, 2014 at 8:28am
Hi Jacobs mom, that was a great comet.thank u really....I am a teen. I was actually diagnosed this year and have had d 4 about 7 months...so not very experienced....but I could see it in my brother....he started acting up a lot...when I was In the hospital and he heard about it....hr asked my gram..."is she going to die?" I thought that was so sweet 4 him to say that....we always fight but i love him. I really hope mason does well.PS.love the said "can he still have choc chip pankackes. I also found that cute..
Comment by rick the "Blogabetic" on July 14, 2014 at 3:59am

I am an only and my mom was very ill when I was diagnosed. Jealousy about D was never an issue, we had lived with most of my life so me being diagnosed was simply par for the course.

I do know however of a situation very much as you describe. The family in question also had many issues and their daughter being a diabetic was just one more for the pot. In many ways I learned form them a truth even before I was diagnosed. Diabetes is not easy and it is a family disease when the child is diagnosed. The issues ripple to all family members. This particular family held together, though not always happily, the diabetic oldest sister and her brother are not particularity close. But she and her sister are very close. I think that has more to do with expectations for men in my community than a terrible riff between then them.

I think your blog is very honest and loving, thank you so much for writing it......rick

Comment by amira colene rose on July 14, 2014 at 8:51am
Wow rick...so sorry about ur moms illness. I hope she is doing good:)
Comment by amira colene rose on July 14, 2014 at 8:53am
Wow thank u.....I an not very experienced though.

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