Well I got hit about 9 months ago when I was 43, similar to you. After thinking I had the flu because I was puking for a day and a half, I got 4 IVs (probably the extra was potassium for severe cramping), an A1c of 12 and BG readings off the charts. I was lucky because I realized that I really had a problem right from the start. I think it makes me approach things much differently. I also get into ruts and just am coming out of one now.
So different in so many ways, but felt for you that you were upset. I was glad to have my wife and a friend with me, but honestly, I was so tired and out of it, that I thought I would be OK if I didn't wake up again when I finally decided I couldn't stay up any longer. You have an amazing man now, and I am guessing that you much better off with him than you would be with the one that was too weak to be there for you back then. It definitely sucked then, but probably for the best.
As for someone saying you are a waste of tax dollars, F#$% them. It doesn't cost that much my 3 days only really cost about $2500. I think I am worth that. Definitely cost less than some slob with heart disease, or their grandma getting a new hip at 85.
So yes we are faulty and on medication. Big deal. Survival of the fittest doesn't really apply the same in civilization as it does in the wild. Fittest may be a diabetic with a job and the smarts to get help when you need it. I personally cannot remember the last time that I had to outrun a tiger, or survive without food or shelter during a blizzard. You seem to have it together, and deserve to pass on genes as a mental fittest.
As for girlie issues, guys worth their salt may be dissapointed, but will deal. At least he is interested enought to be dissapointed. Also since most guys want to solve problems versus providing compassionate listening, if he seems a little disinterested in all the details, it might be because he figures he can't make it better, so he doesn't know what to say.
Finally, from what I have read, and it has been alot since I was diagnosed, if you want kids, all you need is a team that is willing to help you out. Maybe after you have things under control for a few years, you will find an endo and gyno that will support you in your pregnancy. If your current docs say no, find another. There are so many scare tactics out there about amputation, blindness, pregnancy, etc. but there are plenty of old diabetics with all their toes, and perfect vision to see their grandchildren. Don't give up.
Finally about the why me. Just write it off. You (and I) got the shaft, now just deal. Yes it sucks, but there are so many things that are so much worse. It's OK to get in a rut, but don't quit trying to get over it. Yes it will probably come back again, but so what. Whatever you do, no reason to hate yourself. Feel better.