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Permalink Reply by earthling on May 14, 2012 at 7:09pm

How to deal with people like that? Don't. I'm not the best at one line comebacks, but how about, "...And how I raise my child is your business because...?" or, "Gee. I thought close control of blood glucose levels was the key to avoiding dialysis and blindness down the road for my child - Did I misread the research?" or, "My dad taught me the best way to stop a bully is to break his nose...."(fist twitching) God. Where do you live? If it's near me I'll break his nose FOR you. How about "SHUT UP!!!!"

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Permalink Reply by NatalieHodge on May 15, 2012 at 5:52am

Thanks we are in ky,  yes, about control I did mention my daughters a1c is good, he said " I don't worry about an a1c unless it's over 9 ... Has a huge inpatient practice which probably takes in cash, all of the icu stays and dka admissions... Poor control much more profitable for this guy apparently, 

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Permalink Reply by Jen on May 14, 2012 at 7:14pm

No parent wants to draw attention to the disease, at home or out in public. But even when done discreatly, people see, and comments or questions follow- well meaning or otherwise. But the fact is that safety always comes first. I don't have a bunch of advice for you, wish I could tell you to just punch him in the face! lol But this quote comes to mind....

"A mother's love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things, and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path."
~Agatha Christie

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Permalink Reply by NatalieHodge on May 15, 2012 at 6:22am

Thanks,  I try to answer questions other kids ask if kennedy is uncomfortable, they come up often when the dance group sits down to eat together... Some about the pump, she's not to the point she can just say" no thank you" when kids are passing around pizza and sharing food...
Yea a punch in the face would be warranted, I was actually scared he was going to punch me in the face, and when I said I was trying to figure out why he would be so angry, he said"don't you try to pull that psychology crap on me"  and "don't you try to tell me my family is screwed up" I was floored!  My best guess is narcissist type a controlling personality disorder with kid with histrionic tendencies, anyway, my daughter has had relief fr the teasing, so the emotional beating to me was worth it,  

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Permalink Reply by Annie on May 23, 2012 at 5:28pm

I love to draw attention to type 1. The more people I educate the better! I do keep it in check when my son is shy, but I also want him to know that living with type 1 is a huge accomplishment. Be proud. Let other people know you are proud. I have even found when his playmates are educated they look out for him and alert him if he is acting strange...(at pre-school) one 4 yr old says to my 4 yr old (now 6) um Riddick you don't look so good. Is your blood not happy? Riddick was then checked by his teacher, he WAS low and it was handled! Education is the key!

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Permalink Reply by DeeJay on May 14, 2012 at 7:42pm

Just ignore him. He's ignorant, he has no idea what you have to deal with caring for your child's chronic illnesses, he has no idea.People like that want attention, just ignore him and tell your daughter to do the same with his kid, ignore them, pretend like they are not there. It sounds so childish, this guy has his nerve.

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Permalink Reply by NatalieHodge on May 15, 2012 at 6:24am

I thought the same thing, if he would speak that way to me, he must treat his wife an kids that way too,  having a little explanation helps me understand the kids behavior and helps my daughter deal with the situation too... (she heard the whole thing) 

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Permalink Reply by Sam on May 14, 2012 at 8:01pm

What to say. I'm convinced that nobody who has actually been affected by this personally really has a clue about it. Natalie, as a pediatrician, would your knowledge level on this topic be anywhere near the same level it is now as a mother? I doubt it. People will always be ignorant. Sometimes people are in positions (such as this guy) where we hope that they aren't, in which case it is especially upsetting and disappointing when they turn to be just as dumb as people we wouldn't have expected better from. My mother has been a practicing pediatrician for about 30 years--I am certain she learned more about diabetes in the past 6 weeks than all that time combined.... It's unfortunate though, when morons like this guy you had the problem with feel the need to shoot their mouth off...

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Permalink Reply by NatalieHodge on May 15, 2012 at 6:25am

Nope I've learned a lot in 11 months! We're you diagnosed 6 weeks ago? Hang in there your mom is going to kick ass for you!  Have her look up some trials for you!! 

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Permalink Reply by BadMoonT2 on May 14, 2012 at 8:13pm

Although a snappy comeback would certainly make you feel better, I think it is more important to instill in your daughter self confidence in every way you possibly can. By doing so you will enable her to withstand the inevitable teasing and outright harassment. Given a large enough sample there will always be a certain number of jerks and bully's. Growing up is tough enough without the added burden of diabetes.

You should be applauded for using the latest technology to achieve the best possible control, not castigated for it. As a physician I am curious as to why you think so many docs just don't seem to get it vis a vis diabetes? A shortcoming in medical school curriculum, or is our sample here on tuD skewed somehow?

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Permalink Reply by Doris D on May 14, 2012 at 9:32pm

Badmoon has some good ideas there!!! I don't do it well but it's really best to ignore ppl like that. Like I say I don't do it too goo at all but I have learned over the years that as long as ppl know it's bothering u the worst they will get

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Permalink Reply by Jeff Simms on May 15, 2012 at 4:24am

I guess it depends on how much I wanted the person's friendship or if I have to work with the person. If you think your going to have to work with this person professionally or that he could hurt your career then I think I would be a little more careful with what I would say.
I tend to be fairly blunt, so if I didn't care what he thought I would probably just tell him to go to hell and end the conversation.

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